I felt weird

[mrmotivation]

First for me last Friday.

Small town school. Girls Varsity game.

The announce the visiting teams' starting line-up and they run out there and stand in their line.

Then they announce the home teams' starting line-up and they each run out, come shake our hands, then go shake the hands of the visiting teams' player.

Of course, while they are doing this...we can't NOT put a hand out to shake because we would look like turds, but at the same time you have the visiting over there looking like, "Ohhhhhhhhhhh great.........the hometown hero's are doing our game tonight!"

Needless to say, we were each 1.5 hours from that town so that wasn't the deal, but I can about imagine what people were thinking when they saw it.

Even though we were being good sports, it just made me feel weird with only one team doing it and that being the home team.

[Back In The Saddle]

Just so long as they don't call you "Uncle Bob" you're probably okay.

[icallfouls]

Try telling the players "No thanks, I am full."

To be serious, when this situation arises, try to re-introduce yourself to the table crew instead, or start taking your jacket off, or whatever works. With your back to the players, they might realize that you are busy and move on.

If it is something that really bothers you, bring it up in the pre-game, and discuss how the crew would prefer to handle it.

Like you said though, don't be a turd about it.

[Bearfanmike20]

Originally Posted by icallfouls

Try telling the players "No thanks, I am full."

To be serious, when this situation arises, try to re-introduce yourself to the table crew instead, or start taking your jacket off, or whatever works. With your back to the players, they might realize that you are busy and move on.

If it is something that really bothers you, bring it up in the pre-game, and discuss how the crew would prefer to handle it.

Like you said though, don't be a turd about it.

Ot take the time to go shake the hands of the other team. That shoule ease any issues.

[Rufus]

After being out of officiating for about 8 years, I was very surprised that during introductions the players from both teams came out during introductions, did their typical dance with team-mates while getting psyched up for the game, went to shake the opposing coach's hand, then came over and gave fist bumps to the officials. All-in-all I thought it was pretty neat, to be honest, though like I said, unexpected. This happened in a sub-varsity game but I've sat through a couple of varsity games and seen the same thing.

[icallfouls]

If I remember correctly, there is a specific directive in NCAA that officials are not supposed to shake/bump hands for the very reason that it gives the appearance of favoritism if only one team engages in this practice.

Since Ms. Struckoff also sits on the NFHS Board, I would be inclined to say that this will soon be passed down to the HS level.

[Nevadaref]

Originally Posted by Rufus

After being out of officiating for about 8 years, I was very surprised that during introductions the players from both teams came out during introductions, did their typical dance with team-mates while getting psyched up for the game, went to shake the opposing coach's hand, then came over and gave fist bumps to the officials. All-in-all I thought it was pretty neat, to be honest, though like I said, unexpected. This happened in a sub-varsity game but I've sat through a couple of varsity games and seen the same thing.

That is exactly what happens in ALL of our games around here at the Varsity level. It started a few years ago and has become the norm.

[rainmaker]

Originally Posted by mrmotivation

Needless to say, we were each 1.5 hours from that town so that wasn't the deal, but I can about imagine what people were thinking when they saw it.

Even though we were being good sports, it just made me feel weird with only one team doing it and that being the home team.

Personally, I feel weirder when the winning team comes over AFTER the game and shakes the refs hands. I HATE THAT!!

[jer166]

Simple courtesy never hurts anyone. If they come over to shake hands then shake their hand, if it's a fist bump then do it and get on with the game. It shouldn't be a big deal. About half the teams around here do one or the other.

[Back In The Saddle]

My only real issue with the handshake thing is that heaven only knows where these little germ magnets hands have been. I prefer a fist bump if I can get away with it.

[rainmaker]

Originally Posted by Back In The Saddle

My only real issue with the handshake thing is that heaven only knows where these little germ magnets hands have been. I prefer a fist bump if I can get away with it.

Wow. you're right there! I never thought about it, until my little guy went onto some serious immuno-suppression as a treatment for his kidney disease. Doctors warned us not to shake hands lest we bring something home. Fists it was, from then on!

Originally Posted by Back In The Saddle

My only real issue with the handshake thing is that heaven only knows where these little germ magnets hands have been. I prefer a fist bump if I can get away with it.

What? Do you fist bump the ball all night during the game too?? Get real.
Just wash your hands afterward or keep a small bottle of hand sanitizer in your bag.

[Back In The Saddle]

Originally Posted by PYRef

What? Do you fist bump the ball all night during the game too?? Get real.
Just wash your hands afterward or keep a small bottle of hand sanitizer in your bag.

Not that I'm really paranoid about it, but person to person contact is much more likely to pass something than person to object to person. And yes, I do wash my hands afterward.

But perhaps you're right. Maybe I do need to "get real." Whatever the hell that means.

[Y2Koach]

Courtesy is courtesy, if it comes from a good place with sincerity, it really shouldn't be a big deal. I've complemented an officiating crew for doing a good job even though we lost the game. I figure refs get it rough 95% of the time anyways, so if they take pride in doing a good job, I will let them know.

I actually had an official cuss at me one time for saying "good job" after my team lost a game. Then, about 2 years later, the same official was doing one of my games. When, in the course of a game, one of my players travelled and I yelled at my guy "yeah, you travelled!!! Slow down and use your dang footwork!", and as the official ran by me i told him "good call". After the game, the official pulled me aside and asked "did I cuss at you after a game a while ago?" I told him I don't remember, and he said "I think I did, I apologize. You do a good job with your guys." That was a nice after-school-special moment.

[truerookie]

Do you feel weird shaking the coaches hand too? It can be perceived as showing favoritism too. Just a question.