First Time Varsity coach

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

If you say so.

I think I have a right to respond to a coach and I think I have a right to make the point. His comment did not bother me, so I do not see the issue. If that is something you would get all hot and bothered by, then that is your right. I guess we all have our own temperature level. I just do not sweat the small stuff. In my opinion that was very "small."

Peace

Sometimes you are so full of yourself I surprised you can fit a computer in the same room with you. I'm "Hot and bothered" about what? I said I would ignore the assistant. How does that equate to "hot and bothered"? My opinion focused on your comments TOWARDS the asst coach, not any of the coach's comments towards you. You need to work on your comprehension skills, they are really lacking. If there is anybody who doesn't "sweat the small stuff", that would be me. I don't feel a need for long-winded comments to assistant coaches just to show off that I knew their coach "way back when, when he was a nobody." Maybe that's your style, but as you say, one size doesn't fit all.

Why did you start this thread if you are going to be so defensive any about any opinion that doesn't pat you on the back? I'm sorry, was I supposed to applaud for your outstanding wit and great communications skills.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Sometimes you are so full of yourself I surprised you can fit a computer in the same room with you. I'm "Hot and bothered" about what? I said I would ignore the assistant. How does that equate to "hot and bothered"? My opinion focused on your comments TOWARDS the asst coach, not any of the coach's comments towards you. You need to work on your comprehension skills, they are really lacking. If there is anybody who doesn't "sweat the small stuff", that would be me. I don't feel a need for long-winded comments to assistant coaches just to show off that I knew their coach "way back when, when he was a nobody." Maybe that's your style, but as you say, one size doesn't fit all.

Why did you start this thread if you are going to be so defensive any about any opinion that doesn't pat you on the back? I'm sorry, was I supposed to applaud for your outstanding wit and great communications skills.

It sounds like the person that is defensive is you. I posted a story because I thought the situation was funny. Many "respected" officials noticed that and got that point who I know have some years under their belt. I told my partners the story I worked with and they found it funny. I talked to someone through PM and at a meeting tonight. No one said they had a problem with what I said or did or even made the same point you are trying to make. They just found it funny and took it as another war story.

I learned long time ago in my officiating career that what one official does may not work for another official. I know I cannot say things that certain veterans say and get away with it. I know there are officials that cannot get away with some of the same things that I might say. Also if you actually read what I said, I was working his games so that must mean I was nobody too back then. I guess there are just some people that think you cannot make a joke or talk to people that you know will take the jest of what you are saying. I am also in sales for my day job. I deal with people all the time. I know I would not have made those same comments to the visiting coach because we did not "come up together" the same way as I did with this home coach.

I guess you are just going to have to get the stick removed from your behind and learn that the world does not revolve around you way of thinking. I will take what you say into account, but that does not mean I will change anything because what I do works for me. If that comment would have got you run out of the gym than you have to take another approach. I know what I do works very well for me.

Peace

[j51969]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

If you say so.

I think I have a right to respond to a coach and I think I have a right to make the point. His comment did not bother me, so I do not see the issue. If that is something you would get all hot and bothered by, then that is your right. I guess we all have our own temperature level. I just do not sweat the small stuff. In my opinion that was very "small."

Peace

I don't think there was anything wrong with the way you handled it. You were there no us. I feel some officials are to quick to wack a guy, because they might be preceived a weak. That's what makes alot of these threads hard to comment on. Only being there can you get the true emotion of the situation. JMO

[Big2Cat]

I remember officiating in the early days, and my college roommate was the Sophomore coach at a local high school. His teams were always so-so, but for some reason they were 9-0 when I had the games. Pure coincidence, as most of the games were never even that close.

I was so relieved when they finally lost--I was scared someone would know we were roommates in college and think I was doing it on purpose. Thankfully, they (coaches) don't seem so suspicious all the time at the soph. level, and no one ever complained about any of the games.