Race card played

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And I had the same idiot throw a softball at me after I tossed him.

So I don't disagree with you with regard to maintaining your composure and professionalism in the face of such acts. The point that I hope you understand is that you don't cease being an official just becasue the game is over or you leave the gym. You came to the school as an official. Therefore, you have that responsibility until such time as you leave. You can bet that if you called some fan a dumbass in the parking lot, you'd get a call the next morning. Why? Because you're still at the school in your capacity as an official.