What to tell Refs to enforce a "safe" game

[Adam]

Alright, point by point.

Originally posted by mrgusb
1. I'm not looking to sway the refs.

I guess this depends on how you define "sway," but to me, if you are looking to get them to make more calls, that's pretty much the definition of trying to "sway" them.

2. I am an excellent coach, mentor, and role model.

if you say so.

3. I did not imply that I didn't care about the other kids.

The implication comes from the focus on your kids' comments and the affect on them. This is perhaps understandable given the fact that you aren't hearing the other team's kids comment. However, if you want to know how to address the refs, then some vocalized concern for the other team would be in order.

4. Again, if a ref. allows the game to get physical and does not call (intentional) fouls....it is the ref. that sets the tone.

How many intentional fouls do you expect a game? It reads here as if you expect quite a few. Maybe you're defining it differently than I am. could you elaborate on this?

5. If the ref. calls all (intentional) fouls, the teams (if well coached) should learn to control themselves.

One intentional foul call should take care of it. Any more than that, and we're getting into poor coaching territory.

I sense once the "stripes" go on there's a "holier than thou" attitude! (I've heard this from coaches in other leagues...)

Yeah, you'll get that in these here parts any time you ask how to influence the officials in a game.