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Let's see how many honest replies I get. Your son or daughter is on the varsity basketball team.He/she is probably the 9th or 10th "man". You are an official. Do you go to your offspring's games, or do you ref your schedule? There is a guy around here that says "He probably won't play anyway, so I'm doing my games". He even wants to do the two games he has with his son's team, for the same reason, "What's the differece, he won't play anyway"! His partner has called me to fill those 2 games, and I was to fill the other 20 or so until the father decided otherwise. How have you folks handled it. I know what I would do.
(He also had a daughter that graduated 3 years ago, she was the starting point guard, he went to almost all her games) [Edited by zebra44 on Dec 23rd, 2004 at 03:50 PM]
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I'd go to as many of his games as I possibly could, whether he expects to play or not. If he's at the end of the bench, I don't want to miss him playing on the chance he gets in. In either case, he needs parental support. I can ref until I'm 60 or so. If I lighten my schedule or only do games on days when his team isn't playing, that's fine by me.
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The other thing is, if you officiate a game involving his team, you just know he's going to get in the game. You just know that's going to happen.
If I want to ref one of his games, I'll do it in the park, not if he's on the varsity. FWIW, I'm skittish about coaching my kids above a certain age as well. If I was a high school coach, I'd think twice about staying in that position if my kid came up just because life is hard enough for them. I know there have been coaches who've shared the experience with their kids and all, but I'd like to spare them the talk from everybody else. I guess if your kid is really, really outstanding or really, really not it's easier. So people don't question why he plays in the first instance and why he doesn't in the latter.
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You need to support your kids. I speak from experience (read the Tough Transition thread). It doesnt matter if he/she is on the varsity or not, go watch your kid.
I've turned back 9 varsity games so far to watch my boy play. He is a freshman on both the JV's and Varsity. He doesnt get a ton of varsity time (5 qtr/nite rule) but I won't miss any of it. My scheduling committee has been great about trying to replace those games with off night games. I guess that softens the blow some, but I'd do it anyway.
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Learn from my mistakes, my friends. My kid was the # 8 or 9 kid on the bench. I did other games when he was sitting the bench. He said it didn't mattter. Now I know that it did. I sent him the wrong message and I regret every second of it.
Now, after having long ago signed contracts he's a Varsity and JV wrestler. My wife or a friend tapes every move he makes and we watch his matches together when I get home from a game when I can't go to macthes. Won't do this next year, I guarantee it. |
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Here's one that will satisfy both parties.
See about reffing your kids games Now that one was a total joke, I do not think anyone should be put in a situation where they have a conflict of interest. Now, my sister played ball for the high school team (JV) and my Dad who also officiates got ot some of the games, sometimes he was working the game before or the game after. But he didn't make it to every one, but he tried to get to every one he could.
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If my little boy ends up playing sports (or debate or chess or violin or whatever), I will not be available to ref on the nights he has performances. Even if he's the last benchwarmer on the team, I'll be there.
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My boys didn't really like it though...they said I usually called more fouls on them then anyone else. You know what, they were probably right. They went on to race motorcross...not play H.S. basketball...so I did not have to make the choice of officiating or watching my boys participate. BTW, I would not have officiated their H.S. games...just for the perceived bias, real or imagined.
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Where did you get the inference that I was going to "butt into his business"? I know what other officials in his position did around here, and the consensus is with the above posters. I merely wanted to get a broader scope of opinions, to see if his plan was deemed "acceptable".
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