Coach takes a charge!!!

[tomegun]

For someone to think this is bad they shouldn't be on here reading. We officiate a sport where in a split second we have to make a decision and here a load of crap about it right or wrong. We have to manage heated situations all the time. I often find myself holding back while typing instead of letting it all hang out. We are educated at what we do which is why we are here. If you can't handle an occassional flare up maybe you should go to another type of forum.

[scyguy]

I sat here thinking that you would make an attempt at answering the question.

But let me ask another question, why do you phase your statement as "pouting", when in reality I KNOW you would not say that to my face. Does it empower you to insult me and dodge the concern I have about all of us being more pleasant to one another?

Also, please refresh my memory--I am upset at being wrong? Wrong about what? Wrong to want constructive dialogue? Wrong to want you to be instructive so that I can be a better official?? Or wrong to be "thin-skinned" because you choose to be destructive?

[scyguy]

occasional flare up --- now THAT'S funny!!

[jebPE]

scyguy,

Seems to me that you are taking the "banter" a bit too seriously.

Are you too sensitive? Maybe.

Is there anything wrong with that? Not necessarily.

Will others exploit your sensitivity? Most definitely.

Is there anything wrong with that? Not necessarily.

Is there anything you can learn from the above? That's up to you.

I would suggest trading a few barbs; try it, you might like it...just don't be malicious, and if you are perceived as being malicious, apologize immediately.

FWIW, I get teary-eyed at "warm-hearted" movies and outstanding musical performances...I also cuss like a sailor (but not at musical performances, ball-games, or in civilized debates...my cussing is generally limited to business dealings [I work in commercial construction]).

[jebPE]

Clarification: I don't cuss at high-school games (at least not where anyone can hear me)...Razorbacks games are a different story.

[rockyroad]

Hey JR, you obviously need to lighten up - some of the newer guys can't take your crusty old sarcasm...altho I must admit that I did get a little teary-eyed myself when you came to Chuck's rescue over the "shortcomings" comment - but that was because my feelings were hurt since you didn't defend me too...move over Dan, I'm headed for that corner with you!!

[scyguy]

ok I will try it-- here goes

Jurassic, does the name come from the fact that jur--an--@ss--lick? Wow, that was kinda cool, but was it too malicious? ok let me try again,

I once knew a young boy named Dan
Who had callus on his right hand
His mother wanted to know why
So he told her with a sigh
Because he thought it would make him a man

Sorry, I don't feel any better. Guess this negative stuff is not my bag. You have to give me kudos--I tried!!

[jebPE]

As long as you did your best...that's what counts.

You do bring up an interesting point, though.

Some people perceive this type of banter as good-natured ribbing...like on the golf course when you're playing partner hits it out-of-bounds and you say "Why'd you hit it over there?" (malicious would be: "You f***ing idiot!"

Oh, well. To each his own.

[scyguy]

the difference in my eyes is that good natured rubbing is between friends. What I often see on this forum is down right insults toward someone who only wants to better understand the art of officiating.

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally posted by scyguy

But let me ask another question, why do you phase your statement as "pouting", when in reality I KNOW you would not say that to my face.

Uh, yup, I surely would say that to your face. And very sincerely too. And then maybe I'd make you take a time-out in the corner.

I'm not one of the little kids that you teach, Teach. Don't lecture me like one. And don't tell me how to act either. Who cares if you think that we should be more pleasant? Basically, that's none of your damn business.

Is that straight enough for you?

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally posted by rockyroad
Hey JR, you obviously need to lighten up - some of the newer guys can't take your crusty old sarcasm...altho I must admit that I did get a little teary-eyed myself when you came to Chuck's rescue over the "shortcomings" comment - but that was because my feelings were hurt since you didn't defend me too...move over Dan, I'm headed for that corner with you!!

Guess I blew my shot again at being named Mr. Congeniality this year, eh? Bad JR! Bad, bad JR!

Btw, whatinthehell are the M's doing? Sexson? Then Beltre? They trying to buy a pennant? That's just not right, you know.

[scyguy]

am I lecturing when I simply ask why there is a need for such destructive dialogue??

[scyguy]

gotta go JR, have a 7-8th grade tourn tonight and doubt I will be back any time soon. You see, as a teacher, I have until Jan 3rd before I have to go back to work. Tough life I know, but someone has to do it.

Final thought, I am proud of who I am primarily because I am sensitive and understanding of others. Besides being happily married for 24 years, being faithful, and a terrific father for two teenage children, I am also very proud to be a nice guy. You should try it, you might like it!

[Dan_ref]

Originally posted by scyguy
ok I will try it-- here goes

Jurassic, does the name come from the fact that jur--an--@ss--lick? Wow, that was kinda cool, but was it too malicious? ok let me try again,

I once knew a young boy named Dan
Who had callus on his right hand
His mother wanted to know why
So he told her with a sigh
Because he thought it would make him a man

Sorry, I don't feel any better. Guess this negative stuff is not my bag. You have to give me kudos--I tried!!

Gee, that's errr....funny... :shrug:

Here's one:

There once was a guy named scyguy
Who was a mind-numbingly boring socially backward tediously annoying little priss.

Waddaya think?

[Dan_ref]

Originally posted by Jurassic Referee

Guess I blew my shot again at being named Mr. Congeniality this year, eh? Bad JR! Bad, bad JR!

Btw, whatinthehell are the M's doing? Sexson? Then Beltre? They trying to buy a pennant? That's just not right, you know.

JR, I have 1 word for you:

bigunit.

Merry Christmas!!