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Old Tue Nov 15, 2016, 12:51pm
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Wedding Ring?

How many of you guys wear a wedding ring while officiating? Had a guy tell me never to wear one this past weekend. It wouldn't make a difference if I took mine off because I have our date tattooed on my finger anyway, but I was curious about your areas. I've noticed multiple officials in our association wearing them, and I've never even given this a thought. My regular partners both wear one as well. My rules book is in my officiating bag so I don't have that handy to take a closer look, but I don't think I recall anything about wedding bands. I know we don't wear watches, so I'm trying to remember if it specifically addresses watches or if it's a broad statement about jewelry, and if you could interpret wedding rings in that statement....
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Old Tue Nov 15, 2016, 01:11pm
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This is a "When in Rome...." situation.

It is perfectly acceptable to wear a wedding ring. It is not like and ear ring or necklace.

Some people don't because they think someone might say something about their spouse. But if that is such a concern then you probably should not be out there if that is going to bother you that much with them no where in the gym or even knowing anything about you personally. No rules bans a wedding ring, that is common sense. But if you have people you work for that have an issue, that can be different.

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Old Tue Nov 15, 2016, 01:23pm
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I wear one. I've never been counseled not to and if I was, I'd probably ignore it.
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Old Tue Nov 15, 2016, 01:40pm
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For several years after my wife died, I wore her wedding ring on a chain around my neck, the only jewelry I have ever worn. If someone had told me to take it off while officiating, I would have told them to go f*** themselves. (Well, not really, but I would have ignored them.)
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Old Tue Nov 15, 2016, 01:37pm
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My assigner doesn't want it. He said it is hypocritical of us to say players can't wear it then to wear it ourselves

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Old Wed Nov 16, 2016, 04:13pm
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My assigner doesn't want it. He said it is hypocritical of us to say players can't wear it then to wear it ourselves

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I've had an evaluator at camp tell me this exact same thing.
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Old Wed Nov 16, 2016, 04:44pm
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I've had an evaluator at camp tell me this exact same thing.
It's a bogus argument, IMO, but I'd take off the ring for the duration of that camp.
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Old Wed Nov 16, 2016, 05:24pm
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Yes, take it off. Safety.

Otherwise, do what you want. I've been married quite happily for 20 years and I don't wear a ring. My wife couldn't care less, either.
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Old Wed Nov 16, 2016, 06:34pm
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I've had an evaluator at camp tell me this exact same thing.
He was probably single.
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Old Thu Nov 17, 2016, 04:22pm
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My assigner doesn't want it. He said it is hypocritical of us to say players can't wear it then to wear it ourselves

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Mine is fat so I don't wear it. I don't care one way or another. I think your assigner is wrong to say it's hypocritical. We are not in any physical contact with anyone else. The no jewelry rule has more to do with player safety imo than cosmetics.
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Old Thu Nov 17, 2016, 07:36pm
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I am going to jump in here. The NFHS Manual has always (with apologies to the late J. Dallas Shirley) allowed officials to wear a wedding ring only. The CCA Manuals were like the same as the NFHS Manual until the late 1980s when the wearing of wedding rings were prohibited.

I started officiating in 1971 and did not get married until 1982. Prior to getting married the only rings I wore were originally my H.S. ring which then changed to my college ring and my Order of the Engineer Ring. Since they were not wedding rings I did not wear the when I officiated. When I got married I choose to not wear my wedding ring because if players cannot wear jewelry neither should I. My dear wife has never complained about it.

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Old Fri Nov 18, 2016, 01:58pm
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My assigner doesn't want it. He said it is hypocritical of us to say players can't wear it then to wear it ourselves

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I don't buy his reasoning. Can the players wear a whistle? No, then I guess I can't either.
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Old Fri Nov 18, 2016, 05:19pm
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Wacky Rationale ...

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... it is hypocritical of us to say players can't wear it then to wear it ourselves ...
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I don't buy his reasoning.
Agree with jeremy341a.
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