Bench, don't eject

[Justme]

Originally Posted by DTQ_Blue

He says "home cooking every time." I tell him to go back to the dugout which he does for about 30 seconds. Then he's out again asking to see the game clock. I tell him that it malfunctioned and that I had to use my watch. I also tell him that I didn't appreciate his home cooking comment. He said "That's what it was." I said yor're restricted to the dugout for the rest of the game.

Funny thing is my home town is the town his team comes from, and I've umped his girls in the rec league the last 2 years. He didn't know that. Later, I went over to one of the 12U coaches for the same travel team, who I have known for a couple of years, and asked him to inform the 14U coach that I am from the same town as his team. He laughed.

Our UIC has asked us to bench restrict rather than eject where possible. I think it was appropriate not to toss him. I chalk it up to his inexperience and impulsivity and hope he learns.

Any comments?

I chalk this up to your inexperience.......

Too much talking on your part. Why would you bring up the home cooking comment a second time and tell him you didn't appreciate his comment? You were inviting trouble. Deal with it once and move on...don't let it get to you like it did.

Just say, "Coach, that's enough of that!" OR, if you want to be an a-hole and get the coach to ask you to toss him say "Coach, are you saying that I'm cheating?" If he says "yes" then toss him and don't restrict him to the bench.....no more problems. Either way don't say something like "Coach you really hurt my feelings when you made that comment."

Why, after the game, did you care if the coach knew that you were from the same town as him? Don't let things like that bother you so much.