Coaches of physical teams...

[Nevadaref]

Some officials allow a more physical game while others don't.
Doesn't mean that the game is out of control with the physical play or that the guys who call it tighter are doing it better, it is just different.

Have you tried allowing more contact and seeing how it goes?

Personally, I've been on crews with partners of both types and I am more comfortable with the ones who permit a bit more contact. I also think that the HS game is better when the threshold for fouls is raised and the game is allowed to be on the edge.

Perhaps this is a difference between boys and girls games (boys accept more physical play, while girls want similar contact penalized as a foul).