What high school coaches want

[JetMetFan]

Coaches don't want strangers officiating a big game.
Coaches want sectional officials to have worked one of their games during the season.

True. It's a control issue.

There is a better way to ref than just blow the whistle.

There is but we also can't talk to players/coaches all game long. It creates more of a distraction for us.

The more you talk the better ref you are.

There are guys I know where the opposite is true. The more they talk, the more trouble they get themselves - and their partner(s) - into.

If a coach is out of control, talk to him. If you made a mistake, admit it and move on.

Part two, okay. Part one, not so much. Trying to talk to anyone when they're out of control has a tendency not to end well.