Lost my cool ( If I ever had it)

[BktBallRef]

Originally Posted by refiator

If no one else hears the comments, good decision to pass. If loud enough for others to hear, he needs to be accountable.

So he's allowed to be as disrspectful as he wants to as long as no one else hears it?

[rsl]

I have reffed a church rec league for 4 years, but this year health stuff kept me off the floor. Instead, I trained the refs and coached a team. Every week I go early to watch the game before mine and sit with the fans.

The last two weeks in a row I have had people come up and say the new refs are terrible and they wish I was back. These are the same people who have been yelling at me for the last four years.

If you are going to do rec/church leagues, you just have to expect crap on occasion.

[26 Year Gap]

Originally Posted by rsl

I have reffed a church rec league for 4 years, but this year health stuff kept me off the floor. Instead, I trained the refs and coached a team. Every week I go early to watch the game before mine and sit with the fans.

The last two weeks in a row I have had people come up and say the new refs are terrible and they wish I was back. These are the same people who have been yelling at me for the last four years.

If you are going to do rec/church leagues, you just have to expect crap on occasion.

The "occasion" being whenever you have rec league games.

[Rich]

Originally Posted by rsl

I have reffed a church rec league for 4 years, but this year health stuff kept me off the floor. Instead, I trained the refs and coached a team. Every week I go early to watch the game before mine and sit with the fans.

The last two weeks in a row I have had people come up and say the new refs are terrible and they wish I was back. These are the same people who have been yelling at me for the last four years.

If you are going to do rec/church leagues, you just have to expect crap on occasion.

And for that reason (and others, including poor rates of pay) I haven't done a single one of these games in about 7-8 years.

[grunewar]

I actually just STARTED doing church leagues this yr and have had nothing but a positive experience. For me, so far so good. But, obviously, it's early and the jury may still be out......

[refiator]

Originally Posted by BktBallRef

So he's allowed to be as disrspectful as he wants to as long as no one else hears it?

Of course it depends on what he says, how he says it, etc. My point is that I would rather look for reasons not to call a T than for reasons to call a T.

If he walks by me and says "That call stunk" under his breath I am more likely to speak to him without calling a T than if he walks by and says that I am an "F-ing A-hole"

[Welpe]

I elected not to work rec league ball this season and I'm quite glad I did. It was nice not having to be the dealer of destruction, chaos and technical fouls like candy.

[billyu2]

Terrapins Fan,
This is a "church" league that gives out all this abuse? Wow! Reminds me of a joke I read many years ago: The devil called up to heaven and challenged St. Paul to a basketball game. St. Paul smiled back down at the devil and said, "How can you win? We have all the best basketball players up here."
The devil grinned back up at St. Paul and said, "How can we lose? We have all the referees down here!"

[MD Longhorn]

I believe the advice you're getting --- give up the rec crap --- is good advice. It's not a local problem - everywhere I've worked, in multiple sports, rec leagues are the worst - from kids to parents to board members and coaches.

[Scratch85]

Put me on the list of those which have given up rec games. I gave them up about 8 years ago and gave up the summer ball that we call AAU (but isn't) around here about 4 years ago. It has reduced my schedule to about 50 games a year but my season is much better now.

My suggestion, give up rec ball.

[tomegun]

I guess I am alone in saying I officiate rec leagues in the off season. I find something to work on and I work the games. I understand the opinion to not do them, but I can still find something to enjoy in them. I also take the opportunity to work on conflict resolution and communication. If that doesn't work, the cops could be called.

As far as the comments the OP made - it is a human response. We are at our best when we understand the game on a different level than someone who wants their team to win.