T or ignore?....

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by Scrapper1

Possible, but probably not. It's not vulgar, it's not abusive, it's just loud. If he's been a problem all night, and this is the final straw, then I can see it. But if it's just frustration, HTBT, but probably not.

Each person has to find his/her level for what's acceptable in which circumstances. This is one where I think it's better to ignore. If the comment is "Are you &%#$* kidding me? Where's the @&#$% foul????" then you leave me no choice, regardless of time/score. But for non-vulgar, non-abusive frustration, I'm very likely to ignore it.

I have to disagree here if you are only waiting for the curse word. Also abusive does not mean that you had to use certain words. You can be abusive if you are loud and obnoxious. We are mostly talking about school aged kids, not the pros or even college. So if I have a kid yelling at me and saying "Are you going to call a foul?" we will have some problems. For one his behavior might prompt other out of bounds behavior and I also realize that I will have a coach or player again at some point. I am not saying that a T with 14 seconds is the best time, but if that puts a seed in the mind the next time this behavior will not be tolerated when at least I am working their game, that is a win.

I once T'd a coach with about :56 in a game and I knew I had him later in the season. He yelled when the game was quite and tried to make a situation personal. The T made the game better at the time because he did not do that again and most of all the next game I had him, he did not say a single word. Mission accomplished as far as I am concerned. And he made a comment to my partner but not to me in that second game and I did not have to address the same mess I did in the first game.

Peace