I hate it when this happens...kinda long

[LepTalBldgs]

I've been working on confrontational words and what stuck out in your post was your reply “No coach, you have 30 seconds.”.

While this is generally a reasonable thing to say, in this situation it's confrontational since it contradicts the coach. Technically you are absolutely correct with the call and there is nothing wrong with your reply at all except that it doesn't diffuse the situation. Maybe it's bending over backwards, but if we can avoid a T it's probably best for all involved.

If I had the ability to think clearly enough at the time, a more calming response might be something like "I believe the rule is 30 seconds coach". Then to the table (loud enough for the coach to hear) "give me 30 seconds please". There is certainly the opportunity for the coach to continue chattering, but at least it appears to me that a difference in language has the prospect of calming them down.

I read this board for posts such as your so that I can gain experience through more than just floor time. I've learned a lot about the correct way to avoid confrontation by being married 15 years. Someday I'll be an expert.