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Mon Jan 24, 2011, 10:04pm
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i totally agree, let him find himself. if you push, he will resist. take him to a game... high schoool, college, pro, or better yet, a Harlem Globetrotter game. I am a Dad to four ballerina's and one of them is a boy. tough to deal with for an all state football and baseball player... and 3 sport f. however, girls dig dancers and he is coming around to sports. God Bless You and Yours...
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Mon Jan 24, 2011, 10:07pm
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My boy is 8 and in his first year of bball too. I am dealing with the same thing. Is your boy the oldest? I've noticed with friends of mine's kids the first one is the toughest. The younger ones get to see an example. I just work with my boy every chance I get and am just now getting him to recognize the improvement he makes. Slowly, very slowly, it is turning into more effort on the court.
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Tue Jan 25, 2011, 12:15am
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Give him time to find his own desire for competition. My Son was so laid back that my Father in Law bribed him with buying him ice cream if he would just touch the ball during a game. He is now a scholarship college soccer player who hates to lose and motivates all his team mates. Support him and keep it fun, spending time playing with him not always coaching him.
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Tue Jan 25, 2011, 09:34am
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Kids will be kids
Let em be. My first son at a young age loved soccer, but just to kind of run around with a uni with the rest of his buddies. When it came to baseball, he would throw a few in the yard with me and then be more interested in going back inside and doin something else. Basketball was no big deal to him even though he was around it a lot with me. Later, when he was about 11, he started to really get interested in roundball and ended up playing middle school, aau, and jv ball, but decided to concentrate on studies and other school related activities after that, went to college, got degree, is gainfully employed. My younger son was total opposite, as competitive as they come, sleep in the uni type kid. When he was no bigger than a t-ball bat, he would wear me out thrown in the yard and I would have to call it quits, where upon he was in the driveway shootn hoop until dark. He would go on to play all the sports at a very high level thru high school, bball in college and is also now in the work world. My daughters were a bit of a mix between these two, one played college soccer, but are also doing well. Bottom line: Right now when they are very young, no need to worry, or get to uptight about what sort of progress they are, or not making. Just support and unconditional love.
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Mon Jan 24, 2011, 10:06pm
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Agree but...
My experience as a parent is limited to my daughter who is still 2 months shy of her 3rd birthday. But I have worked with kids of all ages as a former high school teacher, coach, director of a Boys and Girls Club, and director of numerous parks and rec sports leagues and summer sports camps.
My $0.02- I agree with the others that he is 8 and not to worry too much about it. And definitely don't push being competitive on him. It will likely only lead to resentment of you and the sport. But when he says he doesn't care about what happens, I would gently point out that anything worth doing is worth doing correctly and worth doing well. It doesn't matter if you're doing homework, household chores, or playing a game. In the end, it is about having fun and he will decide how seriously he wants to take sports on his own. But I would remind him, gently, to take pride in whatever he does and to try his best. Last edited by VaTerp; Mon Jan 24, 2011 at 10:12pm.
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