Irrational Coach....Complains about every call

[bigdogrunnin]

Originally Posted by jeffpea

freddie_g... you promote what you permit. if you allow specific behaviors to continue, then you are, in essence, saying that those behvaviors are acceptable....

I have to agree with this. Back in my younger days I would allow coaches to do things like this because I didn't want to interrupt the game, draw attentions to myself, yada, yada, yada. All it got me was more a$$ chewin's. I don't put up with it anymore, and the coaches whose games I work know this from the get-go. If they have a question, politely and professionally ask. If there is a complaint, share it, politely and professionally. If a coach raises their voice to yell at me or my co-officials, that is IMMEDIATELY addressed. It may different for others, but I don't have much "stuff" from coaches anymore. And, for what it's worth, I give fewer technical fouls now than at any point in my career. Just sayin' . . .

[freddie_g2001]

I'd like to thank everyone for their advice. Honestly, It was totally out of my character to respond like I did, but It is what it is. I will learn from it and ensure to address the coach earlier if I feel he is starting to effect my concentration. Of course,,,,,It is so easy to say "I'd do this or I'd do that.....until your in the situation. I will sure attempt to keep my cool in the future should a situaion arise......Thanks to all that have responded. I hope you all get to work as the Referee in the NCAA Championship Game.....lol

[26 Year Gap]

Originally Posted by freddie_g2001

I'd like to thank everyone for their advice. Honestly, It was totally out of my character to respond like I did, but It is what it is. I will learn from it and ensure to address the coach earlier if I feel he is starting to effect my concentration. Of course,,,,,It is so easy to say "I'd do this or I'd do that.....until your in the situation. I will sure attempt to keep my cool in the future should a situaion arise......Thanks to all that have responded. I hope you all get to work as the Referee in the NCAA Championship Game.....lol

I doubt very many of us want to get scrutinized on National TV.

[Mregor]

Originally Posted by freddie_g2001

We worked the game and one of the coaches team was losing and the coach complained, a lot through out the game. In the 3rd period,...

Probably let it go too far. Hard to turn it around if you let it go so long.

Originally Posted by freddie_g2001

Told the book to put an Official Warning in the book and told my partner, This coach has been warned.

For what? I'd make sure my partner(s) knew the coach was warned so they could take appropriate action if needed, but there is support to write a warning for unsportsmanlike conduct in the book.

Originally Posted by freddie_g2001

We finished the game and to my bad luck, my locker room was locked and it was right by the team that just lost. This Coach saw me in the hall way and looked at me talking to somene else and said, "I WANT HIS NAME". Out of character, I said my name is....And Spelled it for him.

I'd file a report on game management not being available to let you into your room. We should not have to run around the gym in our uniform after a game to find them. Things like this happen then.

Originally Posted by freddie_g2001

When I went out to leave, I saw the coach. I guess he had calmed down and I did. I went over to him and said,...

Mistake on your part. No reason to initiate contact. A lot of things could happen, very few of which are positive. What if it went south from there? It looks like you baited him. Get in, get done, get out. Of course, this is just my opinion...

[Judtech]

The more I think about this thread, the more I think it mirrors my life!

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Judtech

The more I think about this thread, the more I think it mirrors my life!

The difference is you chose to be with her "til death doeth thou parteth."

[Kelvin green]

I am of the opinion that you dont wait until the thir quarter.

If they are whining on every call, I normally tell a coach they have to pick and choose their battles. They usually get it. If they dont then tell them youve heard enough.

it is interesting that when you look at the psychology of the game, when coaches actaully focus on their team and coaching that their teams do better. I believe that when they whine about every call their kids are listening to and they start to think they are being screwed and dont focus on the plays and execution of the plays.

[Terrance "TJ"]

Originally Posted by Kelvin green

I am of the opinion that you dont wait until the thir quarter.

If they are whining on every call, I normally tell a coach they have to pick and choose their battles. They usually get it. If they dont then tell them youve heard enough.

it is interesting that when you look at the psychology of the game, when coaches actaully focus on their team and coaching that their teams do better. I believe that when they whine about every call their kids are listening to and they start to think they are being screwed and dont focus on the plays and execution of the plays.

True. I had a coach, not really causing a huge issue, but going on and on. She had just started to become vocal in the game when there happened to be a tie-up right in front of her. Boy did she jump on that and was going nuts. I guess I didn't blow my whistle fast enough for her. She was all over me for it after I had, I walked past her, nodded to her and calmly said I got it. She was cool with me after that, no issues.

A friend of mine the other day said I had "a way with people". Hopefully I can harness it for on the floor with coach interactions once I get back in the game.