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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 02:28am
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What does one do?

My wife is pregnant and she happens to go into labor while I'm doing a game. I would probably have cell phone at table so she can text or call. Does the school just proceed with 1 official if the game already started or try and find somone real quick. I can tell you I am not missing the birth of my first child. What would one do in my situation. I don't do varsity. Only up to JV.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 02:33am
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That's really going to be up to your state and local rules. Some places continue with one official, while other places don't allow a game to continue with only one official. Only those in your area can answer.

Also, if I was in that situation, I would ask my assignor if there was any way possible to give back the game...I'm sure he'd be more than willing. Don't want to potentially hang a partner out to dry by myself if I don't have to.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 06:54am
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I'd be very apprehensive about taking games within 3 weeks of a due date.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 08:38am
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My wife is pregnant and she happens to go into labor while I'm doing a game. I would probably have cell phone at table so she can text or call. Does the school just proceed with 1 official if the game already started or try and find somone real quick. I can tell you I am not missing the birth of my first child. What would one do in my situation. I don't do varsity. Only up to JV.

Don't work any games during the due date timeframe. It's not fair to the schools, players, and your partners to be distracted like that during your game(s).
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 08:41am
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Do not take any games around your wife's due date. You are not Phil Mickelson at the US open.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 09:18am
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Don't work any games during the due date timeframe. It's not fair to the schools, players, and your partners to be distracted like that during your game(s).
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Do not take any games around your wife's due date. You are not Phil Mickelson at the US open.
I completely agree. My wife is also pregnant with our first and her due date is around the end of the month. I kept several weeks surrounding the date free. I know that it stinks to have a shortened season but in the end, it is just basketball. It will always be here.

Good luck to you!
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 10:14am
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Other options aside from not taking games.
1. Have her induced.
2. Risk having to turn back a game at the last minute.

As for whether she goes into labor during your game; the chances of you not being able to finish the game and get to the hospital in time are slim. The real issue is if she goes into labor during the day, perhaps 6 hours before your game.

I missed my son's birth since I was deployed, and I catch a bit of good natured grief for it still (5 years later). I can't imagine the grief I'd have caught if it had been for a basketball game. Fortunately, my daughter was born in April, no conflicts there unless I ever get selected to work a Final Four game.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 11:19am
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Wives of real basketball officials should not be delivering babies during the months of December, January, February, and March. No "fooling around" in March, April, May, or June. Lots of cold showers. It's just that simple.
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Other options aside from not taking games.
1. Have her induced.
2. Risk having to turn back a game at the last minute.
3. Plan ahead next time for a July birth.

I just mention that because that's what we did for 2010. ;
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My wife is pregnant and she happens to go into labor while I'm doing a game. I would probably have cell phone at table so she can text or call. Does the school just proceed with 1 official if the game already started or try and find somone real quick. I can tell you I am not missing the birth of my first child. What would one do in my situation. I don't do varsity. Only up to JV.
Follow the advice listed above or consider this.

If it's her first childbirth, chances are you will have plenty of time. You're not going to miss anything. It will probably be many, many hours before she's even close to delivery. Even for our third, I finished watching the Bulls beat the Pistons 110-93 on 11/12/1991. Jordan only had 20 by 5 Bulls were in double figures.

Or, follow the advice above and do not take the games. It's not fair to the schools, kids, coaches, fans, and especially your partner.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 11:40am
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It's not far to the schools, kids, coaches, fans, and especially your partner.
It's not fair either.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 12:08pm
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If it's her first childbirth, chances are you will have plenty of time. You're not going to miss anything. It will probably be many, many hours before she's even close to delivery. Even for our third, I finished watching the Bulls beat the Pistons 110-93 on 11/12/1991. Jordan only had 20 by 5 Bulls were in double figures.
My first was born in June '95. When he was six hours old, held him on my lap in front of the NBA Finals on TV, stating, "Lesson number one, kid, basketball."

One other thing: Be very patient, and expect a few false alarms. The baby will come when time says so. Just be there for your wife; you'll have plenty of games (though not much sleep) after the arrival.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 12:23pm
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Follow the advice listed above or consider this.

If it's her first childbirth, chances are you will have plenty of time. You're not going to miss anything. It will probably be many, many hours before she's even close to delivery. Even for our third, I finished watching the Bulls beat the Pistons 110-93 on 11/12/1991. Jordan only had 20 by 5 Bulls were in double figures.

Or, follow the advice above and do not take the games. It's not far to the schools, kids, coaches, fans, and especially your partner.
Our first one was born 2 hours after we got to the hospital, our second had to be induced so while you are right for the most part, there are no guarantees.

I simply would not accept games in a three week window around her due date. Your kid is only born once, there are tons of opportunities to officiate ball
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 12:36pm
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I worked a game on Friday and Tuesday around my wife's Sunday evening birth. I didn't miss a thing.

You know your wife and your relationship better than any of us do. I know people who are appalled that I was on the floor when my wife was in the hospital being monitored and admitted, but she insisted I go and do the game after the doctor told her it would likely be at least 12 hours and they'd probably have to induce labor. She knew I'd drive her crazy. And it wasn't 12 hours, it was more like 72 between being admitted and when they finally induced labor. By then I had been there and had been sent home to sleep on Saturday night.
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Old Mon Jan 03, 2011, 01:51pm
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Our first one was born 2 hours after we got to the hospital, our second had to be induced so while you are right for the most part, there are no guarantees.

I simply would not accept games in a three week window around her due date. Your kid is only born once, there are tons of opportunities to officiate ball
If you're going to work, you need to leave someone with her in case she does start having labor pains.

Also, if I took games and did this, I definitely wouldn't take anything out of town.

But if I took the game, I would not leave in the middle of it unless there was a life/death stiuation. Stau close and you'll be there in plenty of time.
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