Say What? - Page 2

GoodwillRef · #1 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 12:55pm

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Originally Posted by JRutledge

So if a girl said the same thing to a guy, you would stop the game to nip it in the bud?

If you do not like the comments, just tell the kids to knock it off. You do not need to make a big production out of it.

Peace

I wasn't sure who said it...I knew the general area where it came from. We all know in the PC world we live in, like it or not, it is not the same when when the gender roles are reversed. I am sure that everyone in the student section will think twice about doing it again. We all handle situations different, there isn't one big band-aid for all situations.

bob jenkins · #2 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 12:47pm

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Originally Posted by GoodwillRef

it they wouldn't make an announcement about it before the game that it is not allowed.

I've never heard such an announcement (not saying it's not true, just that it helps explain some of the comments you're getting)

SNIPERBBB · #3 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 03:19pm

Around here, it would take at least 4 years to live down threatening to remove the student section for something as lame as that. You'd definitely never live it down at that school as long as you do games there.

Mark T. DeNucci, Sr. · #4 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 12:48pm

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Originally Posted by GoodwillRef

If I hear it, and I did, I am going to nip it in the bud if I can. I would rather stop it when I hear it than have a player come up to me and tell about it. If they didn't want me to take care of it they wouldn't make an announcement about it before the game that it is not allowed.

GoodwillRef:

No, you are NOT going to nip in the bud. It is a NON-issue. Did the fan make threats of physical violence against you, your partner, or any of the participants? NO! Did the fan leave the stands and enter the court? NO! Worry about officiating the game and not some high school boy making a pass at a high school girl. Your attitude makes me think you officiate high school soccer. Get over yourself.

MTD, Sr.

GoodwillRef · #5 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 01:02pm

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Originally Posted by Mark T. DeNucci, Sr.

GoodwillRef:

No, you are NOT going to nip in the bud. It is a NON-issue. Did the fan make threats of physical violence against you, your partner, or any of the participants? NO! Did the fan leave the stands and enter the court? NO! Worry about officiating the game and not some high school boy making a pass at a high school girl. YouR attitude makes me think you officiate high school soccer. Get over yourself.

MTD, Sr.

Wow...harsh!

bainsey · #6 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 02:54pm

I have to agree with the masses, Goodwill. That comment certainly will get someone in trouble at most workplaces, but let that school teach the kid a lesson about our good friend "sexual harrassment." We sports officials need only concern ourselves with genuine threats and violence (both physical and verbal). I don't think "Hey cutie" qualifies.

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Originally Posted by Mark T. DeNucci, Sr.

Your attitude makes me think you officiate high school soccer.

What's your motivation behind this comment, Mark?

rockyroad · #7 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 12:54pm

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Originally Posted by GoodwillRef

If I hear it, and I did, I am going to nip it in the bud if I can. I would rather stop it when I hear it than have a player come up to me and tell about it. If they didn't want me to take care of it they wouldn't make an announcement about it before the game that it is not allowed.

Nip what in the bud???

Was there some kind of unsportsmanlike comment made in there somewhere? Was there some kind of hostility behind the "Hey, you're a cutie" comment?

You went way overboard on this one, imo. You can disagree with that opinion if you want to, but things like this really give officials the proverbial black eye.

GoodwillRef · #8 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 01:05pm

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Originally Posted by rockyroad

Nip what in the bud???

Was there some kind of unsportsmanlike comment made in there somewhere? Was there some kind of hostility behind the "Hey, you're a cutie" comment?

You went way overboard on this one, imo. You can disagree with that opinion if you want to, but things like this really give officials the proverbial black eye.

How did this give officials a proverbial black eye? You can agree to disagree and I won't have a problem but who is the one going overboard now?

I didn't yell across the floor I didn't it very respectfully with game management right there so only the student section could here me and then we continued the game, no more than a thirty second delay.

mbyron · #9 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 01:49pm

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Originally Posted by rockyroad

... things like this really give officials the proverbial black eye.

Which proverb is that, exactly?

just another ref · #10 (**permalink**) Fri Dec 17, 2010, 11:14pm

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Originally Posted by GoodwillRef

I hear a male student fan yell out to the ball handler, "Hey 21, you are cutie what to be my girlfriend?" The ball is passed out of bounds and I call over game management.

What was the kid looking for? A reaction. Instead of maybe making the girl blush, he sees you go off the deep end. Talk about hitting a home run. No telling what this guy may say if he ever sees you again.

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I stand right in front of the student section and wait, when he gets to me and tell him what I heard and that I am not sure who said it. I told him if I hear it again I will remove the entire student section so they better police themselves.

Good luck with that.