One T or two - if one, on who?

[Judtech]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

Yup. I've worked more summer ball this year than I have in the past, and I'm amazed at how few of these coaches know how to ask a question. Lots of statements starting with "that's a," but very few questions.

But they do seem to have the "statement question" down:
"How can you call that in summer league"?
"We don't get that call during the season?"
"WHy can't you just let them play''?
"Why can't my player get that call?"
"Well how come that was a foul last week"?
"You know they don't call it this way over in ______"?
and everyones favorite:
"Why does Kobe get to wear a wrist braclet?"

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Judtech

But they do seem to have the "statement question" down:
"How can you call that in summer league"?
"We don't get that call during the season?"
"WHy can't you just let them play''?
"Why can't my player get that call?"
"Well how come that was a foul last week"?
"You know they don't call it this way over in ______"?
and everyones favorite:
"Why does Kobe get to wear a wrist braclet?"

That would be a step up from what I'm getting. And, FTR, I treat those "questions" just as I treat statements.

[Judtech]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

That would be a step up from what I'm getting. And, FTR, I treat those "questions" just as I treat statements.

Oh I hear worse, but I thought this was a family friendly forum! My favorite being, incidentally enough, an ejection.
3 seconds left. Team A is ahead, fouls Team B after Team A misses a FT. Coach comes out onto the floor, all 5'3" of him, and wants to know how I can make that call b/c "This is AAU". So after I report the T, he is huddling with his players pushes two of them aside, stares at me and says, "We are going to win this game despite what this F'ing cracker and Uncle Tom call". My partner was near me and said "You want me to get that or do you want it" I let him take it b/c after all, I am just a giver at heart!

[Rooster]

Originally Posted by Judtech

But they do seem to have the "statement question" down:
"How can you call that in summer league"?
"We don't get that call during the season?"
"WHy can't you just let them play''?
"Why can't my player get that call?"
"Well how come that was a foul last week"?
"You know they don't call it this way over in ______"?
and everyones favorite:
"Why does Kobe get to wear a wrist braclet?"

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

That would be a step up from what I'm getting. And, FTR, I treat those "questions" just as I treat statements.

Still tryin' to figure out where my line is drawn: Those "questions" get the whack-a-mole, right?

[mbyron]

Originally Posted by The Rooster

Still tryin' to figure out where my line is drawn: Those "questions" get the whack-a-mole, right?

For me, not by itself. But the ABS meter goes up incrementally with each one, and depending on the tone, volume, and antics I'll put a stop to it sooner or later.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by The Rooster

Still tryin' to figure out where my line is drawn: Those "questions" get the whack-a-mole, right?

Originally Posted by mbyron

For me, not by itself. But the ABS meter goes up incrementally with each one, and depending on the tone, volume, and antics I'll put a stop to it sooner or later.

I'll add "frequency" to mbyron's list of "depending on." Usually the "questions" get ignored like the statements, however. If it starts to become a regular thing, then politely tell him that it needs to stop.

[Rooster]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

I'll add "frequency" to mbyron's list of "depending on." Usually the "questions" get ignored like the statements, however. If it starts to become a regular thing, then politely tell him that it needs to stop.

This helps. Thanks.

So far (summer league) I've been going with the "What makes me uncomfortable" standard (nothing yet), in addition to what JR said about playing in an safe atmosphere that is free from threats, intimidation, and other junk. I know there are some absolutes (cussing, integrity, etc) about what we should whack, but I'm concerned about over-reacting... I've done pretty well so far in "turning down the heat" in situations by talking and using a smile with a sense of humor, but as I've said in other posts, this is a whole new world to me. I will take care of bidness in the obvious instances but am still learning that intensity and frequency balance.

During the summer one of my personal POEs has been game management, which for me means giving more attention to what's happening around the game as well. I've been trying to keep track of fouls, the score, and the possession arrow without having to ask the table. I'm not there yet, but I think I'm going in the right direction. Coaches have been pretty well-behaved and I've only had one incident with a parent. I didn't run him but he got the message and kept his mouth shut the rest of the game. AND he kept it shut the next day as well!

Y'all have been very helpful in my line coming into focus. I hope to make everyone here proud.

Thanks.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by The Rooster

I've been trying to keep track of fouls.....

I hope you mean only team, not individual, fouls and only because during summer league it's more likely the scorers might lose track.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by The Rooster

This helps. Thanks.

So far (summer league) I've been going with the "What makes me uncomfortable" standard (nothing yet), in addition to what JR said about playing in an safe atmosphere that is free from threats, intimidation, and other junk. I know there are some absolutes (cussing, integrity, etc) about what we should whack, but I'm concerned about over-reacting... I've done pretty well so far in "turning down the heat" in situations by talking and using a smile with a sense of humor, but as I've said in other posts, this is a whole new world to me. I will take care of bidness in the obvious instances but am still learning that intensity and frequency balance.

During the summer one of my personal POEs has been game management, which for me means giving more attention to what's happening around the game as well. I've been trying to keep track of fouls, the score, and the possession arrow without having to ask the table. I'm not there yet, but I think I'm going in the right direction. Coaches have been pretty well-behaved and I've only had one incident with a parent. I didn't run him but he got the message and kept his mouth shut the rest of the game. AND he kept it shut the next day as well!

Y'all have been very helpful in my line coming into focus. I hope to make everyone here proud.

Thanks.

Developing your own standards for the ABS and "borderline" stuff just takes time and experience.