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You'll get better with age
To the original question, I think there might be some truth to a coach treating you different because of your youth, because maybe he thinks he can rattle and influence you. But on the other hand, your youth may hinder your own self-confidence now vs. when you reach your upper twenties and thirties. In my early 20s, I was barely starting to deal with the stress of mortgages, layoffs at work, and other pressures. Everything seemed bigger than it really was. As I aged, I developed a thicker skin and now the way a coach treats me is much easier to deal with. You can't underestimate experience, which will come.
Stay strong in your game and maintain control of yourself. Use confident mechanics. Keep your cool in a heated situation. Minimize your reactions when you can, but T if you must. If you give the coach the perception that he can't phase you, even at your age, he'll back off (and try to find a different way to influence you). In any case, it is almost never personal (I never say never). Best of luck. |
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Communciating With Coaches ...
General Techniques:
Statements by coaches don’t normally need a response. Answer questions, not statements. Let the coach ask their question first, before speaking. Be a responder, not an initiator. Most coaches will have questions when they believe the officials have missed an obvious call. Having the officials in closer proximity often calms down the coach. Be in control and speak in calm, easy tones. Be aware of your body language; maintain positive and confident body language. Make eye contact with the coach when the situation allows. Do not try to answer a question from an out of control coach; deal with the behavior first. If you’ve missed a call or made a mistake; admit it. This technique can only be used sparingly, perhaps once a game. Don’t bluff your way through a call. Do not ignore a coach. Specific Communication Examples: Coach sees the play very differently than the official: “Coach, if that’s the way it happened/what you saw, then I must have missed it. I’ll take a closer look next time.” “Coach, I understand what you’re saying, however, on that play I didn’t see it that way. I’ll keep an eye for it on both ends.” “Coach, I had a good look at that play and here’s what I saw (short explanation).” “Coach, I understand what you’re saying, but my angle was different than yours.” “Coach, I had a great look at that play, but I understand your question and I’ll have the crew keep an eye on it.” “Coach, I had that play all the way and made the call.” Coach believes you’re missing persistent illegal acts by the other team: “OK coach, we’ll watch for that.” “Coach, we are watching for that on both ends of the court.” Coach is questioning a partner’s call: “Coach, that’s a good call, as a crew we have to make that call.” “We’re calling it on both ends.” “Coach, he/she was right there and had a great angle.” “Coach, we’re not going there, I can’t let you criticize my partner.” “Coach, he/she had a great look, but if you have a specific question, you’ll have to ask him/her, he/she’ll be over here in just a minute.” Coach is very animated and gesturing: “Coach, I’m going to talk with you and answer your questions, but you must put your arms down/stop the gesturing.” “Coach, please put your arms down. Now, what’s your question?” Coach is raising their voice asking the question: “Coach, I can hear you. I’m standing right here, you don’t need to raise your voice.” "Coach, I need you to stop raising your voice and just ask your question calmly.” Coach is commenting on something every time down the floor: “Coach, I need you to pick your spots, we can’t have a comment on every single call that is being made.” "Coach, I can't have you officiating this game." "Coach, I understand you're not going to agree with all of our calls, but I can't have you question every single one." "Coach, if you have a question, I'll answer if I have a chance, but we aren't going to have these constant comments." Coach has a good point and might be right. “You’ve got a good point and might be right about that play.” “You might be right, that’s one we’ll talk about at halftime/intermission/the next time out.” “You might be right; I may not have had the best angle on that play.” Coach is venting, make editorial comments: “I hear what you’re saying” “I hear what you’re saying, but we’re moving on.” Coach just won’t let it go: “I’ve heard enough and that’s your warning.” Original Source: Topeka (Kansas) Officials Association
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Some coaches will always look for an angle to work the officials. You're young or you're old, you're overweight or too scrawny, you're a woman, you haven't been doing this as long as I have, you look funny, that's some haircut, whatever.
Officiating is a management task, and you don't control the behavior of those you manage. All you can do is react properly to whatever they do. Sometimes that means ignoring it, sometimes penalizing it, sometimes just talking. Reacting properly is key. What you control is your own behavior. Bad coach behavior is never about you (they just met you, or in any case rarely know you), it's about them. Even if you make a mistake, remember that you're human and your mistakes don't license anyone's bad behavior. Don't take it personally, just deal with it when it happens. Work hard to improve in every respect: rules, mechanics, game management. The first two are easier than the third, which results from wide and thoughtful experience and takes time.
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Sometimes coaches will try and intimidate an official they believe does not have a lot of experience. Don't get angry and frustrated. Sounds like you did a good job. If he is walking towards you, and I am assuming he was not in coaching box, then a T is warranted and justified. He should know the rules. By showing that you too know the rules and are willing to administer them - he will hopefully show you more respect and reign in his attempts to influence/intimidate you. If not - he can always go to the locker room.
As previously stated - speak to coaches with respect as a professional. Hold yourself to a high standard and others will learn to respect you regardless of your age.
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Having been an official, and now a coach, I want to know that I am heard. What I mean by that, If i ask a question, I just want an answer. I do not talk much to the officials to begin with. But I have noticed here in our area, our newer officials are being taught to ignore coaches. I think this is going down a bad road. We have all seen the coaches that act up and not punished.
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When I was younger I was much quicker with my T's and didnt really chat with coaches. Now I have no problem talking with them but I have a line and I treat them all the same. I don't take any crap from coaches and/or players. On the other hand I will have a civil discussion when applicable with anyone (HC, AC, players).
The thing with my early Ts when I was a whippersnapper is that I have heard rumblings when coaches who dont know me start to yap, but parents and kids do, and they say "Don't try that with him, he don't deal with BS" Ive heard that on a few occassions and it brings a smile to my face.
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I think it takes at least 2-3 years for an official to be able to comfortably talk with coaches/players and just be themselves. I can say the hardest thing when I started was while there was action a coach was on me complaining/questioning what just happened. Now I can have a lengthy conversation with both coach, while officiating and sipping a frappucino.
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I'd say make sure your mechanics are strong and crisp. They guy that taught me used to tell us that 90% or more of officiating is looking like you know what's going on. The more calm and confident you appear, the less crap you're going to take. I agree with Deecee that early on, you're better off avoiding conversations with coaches. Every time I've moved up and joined a better league, I've made a conscious effort to avoid the coaches until they get to know my face. I have heard of some college assignors that will tell 1st year guys in their leagues not to talk to coaches, period.
Good T btw. There's no worse feeling in the world of officiating than walking out of a gym knowing you should have assessed a T and didn't. Over time you'll know when you have to bring the hammer and when you can talk your way out of it. Its a constant learning curve no matter how long and what levels you've worked. |
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