7 year of commitment and now I'm a cheater?

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Stopping play to draw attention to the coach & going over to the bench area to challenge the coach. Frankly, you got what you asked for. You went to him and basically confronted him/backed him into a corner.

I say that since you stopped play, you had already made up your mind to T him. But you went into his wheel house to have him either back off or say it again. What did you expect him to do? Back off and apologize?

He was definitely wrong for his "cheating his kids" comment. He flat out said cheating and directed it toward an official. WHACK! But now you have gone to him. This is just adding fuel to his fire. He continued his comments, in fact according to the OP, said as much 3 different times.

It seems to me that this is one of those situations where both parties lose, because half the people are going to say you confronted/baited him, and the other half are going to say it was on him.

Just about any phrase with the word cheat in it is referring to the officials integrity and should not be tolerated. No need to go looking for something more.