Advice on Partner

[PAT THE REF]

Hey everyone;

First, I want to wish everyone a happy new year. I have learned a great deal of information from the Forum and it has made me a better official from it.

Today I had a problem with my partner. I have worked with the gentleman a few times in the past; and have had problems with him. Every time he wanted to "wear the pants" and try to challenge/"correct" me on the court. Last year he would call me over to talk during time outs - just to tell me what I was doing wrong....

Today I helped out my assigner and did a MS inner-town (east vs west) "rivalry" game i guess you could call it. I arrived in plenty of time, enough to watch pre-game. The gym was cold; so I wore my jacket while watching with about 11:00 to go before we were to start.

My partner walks in with about 7:00 to go before tip-off and wants to know why I was wearing a jacket... We had problems from then on. With about 4:00 before tip off, a player from team B decides that he is to do a pull up on the rim... However since he isn't tall enough, he grabbed on the net and pulled himself up to the rim and was hanging there...

Well that was followed by another player (6'0") making a slam dunk, missing the basket but still hanging on the rim... I start to walk over and my partner cuts me off in at the pass... with these kind words... "your not going to do that are you... see if you do that then I know you didnt play the game... You have to let these kids play ball... that is why ref's like you shouldnt be out here... you dont understand the game."

I walked over - got captians and held a brief 10 sec. meeting... Then there was a barage of minor problems... He would reach into my "area", make phantom calls and then try to throw me under the bus...

I know im just venting here but I needed to get this out. What would you guys do about the pregame incident that I wrote above...? He has been working this area for about 5 years to my 2. So any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance and happy new year...

Pat

[johnnyrao]

Pat,

Great post. I had to think this through to make sure I siftd through my feelings between what I would like to do versus what I think I actually would do. How do I think I would handle this? I think I would try like crazy to never work with this official again. If I did, I would probably just survive the game and move on. One thing that can come out of a game like this is that you can learn things "not to do". For example, you can see what happens when an official continually calls in your area. You can apply this to your own officiating as you move along and work with more proficient officials. This may not be what most folks here think, but I think that's what I would do.

[daveg144]

The quick answer is don't work with this clown again! If you do, just call your game and ignore his stupid comments (let them go in one ear and out the other). You can do this respectfully. However, if you know for sure he threw you under the bus, call him on it after the game (or at halftime). Tell him that's one thing you will not tolerate (and would never do yourself).

One last thing...as you continue to move up and eventually find yourself to be the more experienced referee, do NOT treat your partners this way!

[tjones1]

Sure sounds like a long night. But, you've got to call your game - which should include calling the pre-game dunks. Rough night in which you've got to bare down and get in/get out. Best thing to do is to find something from the game that you nailed (i.e. something to build on) and move on.

Only other thing to do is to tell your assigner you prefer not to work with him.

[footlocker]

i'd just talk bad about him behind his back to every ref in the area that will listen. that should fix things.

[DrFeelGood]

man...what a jerk. If I was in your position I'd probably survive the game but I'd also have been stern with him.

For example, in the beginning when he walked up to you and said

"your not going to do that are you... see if you do that then I know you didnt play the game... You have to let these kids play ball... that is why ref's like you shouldnt be out here... you dont understand the game."

you should immediately stand your ground, don't let this guy push you over. As soon as you stopped and left, he realizes he has control over you. But if you're stern and say "The rules are the rules and I AM going to talk to those kids, Sir. Maybe you should take notes and not be so uptight" he would then realized he messed with the wrong person.

And what's he going to do after then? Tell the other referee's in the league that you were enforcing the rules?

[Texas Aggie]

Honestly, there comes a time when you need to quit being nice. Do so OFF the court, but do it. Tell him that he has no business saying anything to you about correct or incorrect since he doesn't know either himself.

[Mark Padgett]

Tell the guy that he is acting unprofessional, that you're not going to pay attention to anything else he has to say because he has lost all credibility with you and that if he keeps making calls in your area you will make calls in his, and very loudly.

Then smack him upside the head with a frying pan.

Oh yeah, if this jerk asked me before a game why I was wearing a jacket, I'd tell him it was my "evaluator" jacket and that all us evaluators wear one.

[fullor30]

Originally Posted by footlocker

i'd just talk bad about him behind his back to every ref in the area that will listen. that should fix things.

I don't think he has to or should, sounds like he's 'turnkey' and everyone has the same opinion of him, this clown will self destruct on his own.

I'd move on and forget about him, not worth the time thinking about.

[Mark T. DeNucci, Sr.]

Originally Posted by PAT THE REF

Hey everyone;

First, I want to wish everyone a happy new year. I have learned a great deal of information from the Forum and it has made me a better official from it.

Today I had a problem with my partner. I have worked with the gentleman a few times in the past; and have had problems with him. Every time he wanted to "wear the pants" and try to challenge/"correct" me on the court. Last year he would call me over to talk during time outs - just to tell me what I was doing wrong....

Today I helped out my assigner and did a MS inner-town (east vs west) "rivalry" game i guess you could call it. I arrived in plenty of time, enough to watch pre-game. The gym was cold; so I wore my jacket while watching with about 11:00 to go before we were to start.

My partner walks in with about 7:00 to go before tip-off and wants to know why I was wearing a jacket... We had problems from then on. With about 4:00 before tip off, a player from team B decides that he is to do a pull up on the rim... However since he isn't tall enough, he grabbed on the net and pulled himself up to the rim and was hanging there...

Well that was followed by another player (6'0") making a slam dunk, missing the basket but still hanging on the rim... I start to walk over and my partner cuts me off in at the pass... with these kind words... "your not going to do that are you... see if you do that then I know you didnt play the game... You have to let these kids play ball... that is why ref's like you shouldnt be out here... you dont understand the game."

I walked over - got captians and held a brief 10 sec. meeting... Then there was a barage of minor problems... He would reach into my "area", make phantom calls and then try to throw me under the bus...

I know im just venting here but I needed to get this out. What would you guys do about the pregame incident that I wrote above...? He has been working this area for about 5 years to my 2. So any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance and happy new year...

Pat

Your parnter has only been officiating five years to your two years. He is a relatively new official just like you. He sounds like the suck up official who only cares about getting games to collect a game fee. I would of reported both TF's and started the game with the free throws. Remember, you were already at the game when he decided to show up to officiate, You were the R in the game.

MTD, Sr.

[PAT THE REF]

Thanks for everyones advice...

Pat

[crazy voyager]

I will just quote the assignor in my area after a game a friend of my called last season
She was really angry cause her partner wasn't even trying. He didn't run, didn't even attempt to call the game properly. After the game she said
"I never want to officiate with him again" (note this had happened before when they called games)
"I know, but you should know. When you looked at the court today, there were one official looking good and proffesional. He is not that official" (He has been calling games probably, 10 years longer then she, maybe even more).
Talk to your assignor, let him know how you feel about this partner, and if this ever happens.
Get in, get done, get out
Then take care of things after the game has ended (offcourse try to talk to him during the game, but if he won't listen, don't force anything and start an argument)