How to honor my daughter

[Dan_ref]

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.

I never lost one, but came pretty close. More than once as it turns out.

Whatever you do is what you do.

You are in my thoughts.

[zebraman]

Swvaref,

My heart aches for you and your family when I read the journal and look at the pictures.

Like Dan says, you'll figure out what is the best way to honor her. It'll just come to you and be the right thing.

You are in my thoughts.

Kevin

[Mountaineer]

On one hand, I think just going back out will be honoring Kassidy's memory. If it were me, I think I'd have a small K monogrammed into the one of sleeves. I'm afraid a ribbon would be a problem - how do you attach it? what happens if it falls off? I'd think a local sporting goods store would be willing to stitch it in for you on your shirts for little or no cost.

I would also think that just before the ball is tossed in every game, a glance heavenward to acknowledge Kassidy is watching you ref would be a nice gesture too. After all, this is something that will help you remember and that pause will certainly do that.

The fact that you want to honor and remember your sweet daughter is a wonderful thought. Best wishes to you and your family.

[JRutledge]

You will honor her by keeping her memory alive. You will honor her by telling your story.

I hope I never have to experience what you have gone through. I cannot even imagine your situation and I am not a parent. Just continue your life with her memory close by. I am sure people will learn from your situation and telling your story will be the best way to honor her in every way.

Peace

God Bless you and your family swvaref. I have two daughters around Kassidy's age and can't imagine the pain you've endured. May you find peace among your family and friends.

I like the idea of the small monogrammed K on your sleeve. Heck, I'd even do it in pink.

[Nevadaref]

Originally Posted by PYRef

I like the idea of the small monogrammed K on your sleeve. Heck, I'd even do it in pink.

I too think that this is a wonderful suggestion. On one of my officiating shirts, I have a "JR" and a patch of a bear's head just above the cuff on opposite sleeves to honor the memories of two of my fellow officials who have recently passed.

No one that I have worked with has ever voiced a negative comment over these. In fact, I have only received positive feedback from fellow officials who have stated that they should do this as well.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to understand it. I can only hope that you are, or will someday be able to, reflect upon the unfortunately too brief period that you shared with your daughter and know that those moments were a graceful gift.

[Jimgolf]

All our prayers are with you. God bless.

When my father died, my nephew got a tattoo of a phrase from my father's favorite hymn "Be not afraid".

If tattoos are a little extreme for you, perhaps you could get something embroidered on your shirt, if Kassidy had a favorite line or saying.