No big dogs

[Rita C]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

Doing your best is not having a pre-game? Then you talk about quitting because someone going over a post game?



Remember, you started this post. None of us have a dog in the fight as to why you want to officiate or not.



Rita, you are upset because "big dogs" (your words) want to go over stuff before the game. You did not say anything about "big dogs" being rude or unprofessional. You said they it was more fun to work with people that did not go over those things. I did not make that claim or create a post about this topic, YOU DID!!! Not sure how I would have a chip on my shoulder by pointing this out. Also if you want to be seen a professional and someone that wants to improve, you go over things before and after games. Even when I work with younger officials, I ask them "Did you see anything (that I personally did) that you want to talk about?" I want to talk about things because I might have done something that was not correct or they might think I did something right. Either way in most games we officiate, no one is around evaluating us. So I like to hear things from my partners that we could have done better. That is "trying to get better" in my opinion. Trying to get better does not mean getting upset with your partners and contemplating why younger officials quit just because someone had a pre-game and post-game.

Peace

You need to read more carefully. I did say I appreciate the input of the "big dogs". I never said I was upset that we do pregames and post games. And if more of them were like your last paragraph, it would be delightful.

I didn't say I would quit over a postgame like what you described. I did say the postgame that made me think about it was terrible. He didn't let up and told me the same thing over and over and told me to suck it up. And he snapped at me on the court. (Totally out of the blue. I had no idea something was wrong.) You don't think that was unprofessional? I did. And told him so later. And got an apology.

But maybe that's one of the things missing this year: Postgames like you describe. Maybe I need to listen and see. I know that's how it used to be and I felt more a part of it. Maybe that's one of the things missing this season.

But it's all more than just being professional. It also needs to be fun. Maybe I'm just using you all as a sounding board to find it. Even though I think you are misreading me, your words are helping find something.

I know what I'm feeling and I know what I'm saying. But I find it interesting what all you all are hearing. It's giving me some good insight.

Rita