Flagrant or Not

[samj]

I am a fairly new official and after officiating for 2 years had to call my first T. It was at a team camp and after making a call, a player turned to me pointed to me and said "your f#@*$ing rotten". I called a flagrant foul and tossed him for the remainder of the game. I have heard a few different evaluations of my call. Some say due to the nature of the language that it was flagrant. Others have told me that even though it was bad, it was only a technical foul and he would have to have another T to get tossed. The third interpretation was that it was only one technical foul, but you could sit him down for the rest of the game. What is the proper procedure for this scenario. Does it have to be physical to be flagrant? I thought after two years and over 60 games that I would be ready for my first T, but I must admit I did get a little fired up. Just to add to it, my partner had to toss the coach of the player just 5 minutes before and the team was losing by about 20 points. It really didn't get much better either. Any help would be appreciated.

SJ