What would you have said?

[canuckrefguy]

Had the roles been reversed, what would you have liked your partner to say to you?

Ask him what he saw on the block/charge play, and ask whether he thought he was reaching a bit. If the conversation is calm enough, bring up primary/secondary defender.

Don't worry about it too much, and certainly don't bring up the "game has passed him by" stuff. A lot of eyes saw the two calls - and if it's become a habit with him, many more eyes have witnessed the pattern.