How would you handle this?

[gostars]

I’m am still learning how to handle coaches and would like your feedback on something that happened to me earlier this season.

I had 2 MS games, one boys and one s. The s game didn’t go very well. It was very physical and I had a partner who was not communicating with me at all. The home coach was not real happy with us. It was my 8th game and I still have a lot to learn. A bad partner didn’t help things. It was his 3rd game and he was never in position. The boys game was going a lot better. I wasn’t hearing much from either and I thought we were doing pretty well. (Despite score problems, clock problems, fan problems, and no possession arrow) Anyway, during a time out the home s coach who was sitting in the 2nd row right behind the bench (the bench was the first row of bleachers) came on the floor and told me that the other team had four coaches (actually they had three) and I was letting them run my game. I know this wasn’t true because they were the only one doing any complaining. Here’s my problem, I know that warranted a T. However, she was not a coach for that game, just a fan and I didn’t want to treat her like an assistant coach because the boys coach hadn’t said a word all night. I guess I could have T'd her as a fan but I'm pretty sure that is a direct on the head coach. I haven't T’d a coach and am still trying to figure out what is acceptable and what is not. I don’t want to be one of those officials who is known for giving out a T whenever someone looks at him/her wrong. What would you do?