To tea or not to tea....

[Mike51]

Here's a situation I faced tonight.
Girls varsity, early second half, I'm the Lead, got a charge call on Home team #22 at the basket. Home bench reacts negatively, assistant coach especially loud. I report the foul, then move to get the ball. (partner bad knees, still on other end of court). The ball had bounced to the home bench and the same assistant had it. I was about 20 feet from him, put out my hands so he could throw the ball to me and he hurled a fastball at me. I made no attempt to catch the ball and T'd him up. He nor the head coach could understand why.
Would any of you had handled it differently?
BTW, this guy is also the Headmaster of the school.