Condescending Coach

[Adam]

I see a big difference between most of these legitimate coaching comments ("way to move your feet", "good defense", etc., and "you keep doing that jonny, your feet were set." As VaTerp noted, it gets easy to discern the difference after time. My default setting is to hear them as legitimate coaching comments, so if the coach is trying to be passive-aggressive, I'm not going to catch it. I trust my judgment to be able to say that if I think he's being a p/a jerk, he's likely being a p/a jerk.

[jeremy341a]

Last year, I called a few fouls in a row which resulted on a players second foul in the first period. Coach complained and life went on went to the other end then came back and he complained some more. I told him enough. Went back to other end and when I came back was C in front of his bench. He couldn't have been more than 2 foot from me and said in an angry loud voice "now I got a kid who can't play bc I can't trust you."

After I called the T he looked at me and said I was talking to my kids.

[BigT]

Great call he was talking to you.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by jeremy341a

Last year, I called a few fouls in a row which resulted on a players second foul in the first period. Coach complained and life went on went to the other end then came back and he complained some more. I told him enough. Went back to other end and when I came back was C in front of his bench. He couldn't have been more than 2 foot from me and said in an angry loud voice "now I got a kid who can't play bc I can't trust you."

After I called the T he looked at me and said I was talking to my kids.

And instead of using the T to calm himself down, now he's insulting your intelligence. Love it when they double down on stupid.

[WhistlesAndStripes]

Originally Posted by Adam

And instead of using the T to calm himself down, now he's insulting your intelligence. Love it when they double down on stupid.

Ya can't fix stupid!

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Whistles & Stripes

Ya can't fix stupid!

But you can sometimes silence it.

[BigT]

Had a small school BJV coach who was getting mouthy so I asked him to slow down on the comments and he sarcastically laughed at me. I ignored him and told my partner. So temped to serve T when its sub varsity on that.

Any thoughts.

Then Monday I had a freshman coach in a tight game getting more vocal and gesturing more. One point he didnt like a no call and threw his pen at the bench.

That was easy enough.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by BigT

Had a small school BJV coach who was getting mouthy so I asked him to slow down on the comments and he sarcastically laughed at me. I ignored him and told my partner. So temped to serve T when its sub varsity on that.

Any thoughts.

Then Monday I had a freshman coach in a tight game getting more vocal and gesturing more. One point he didnt like a no call and threw his pen at the bench.

That was easy enough.

With the laugh, I'd likely ignore that and allow him to decide whether to actually listen to you.

[RedAndWhiteRef]

Originally Posted by Adam

With the laugh, I'd likely ignore that and allow him to decide whether to actually listen to you.

I'm not sure, if a coach laughed in my face that would be hard to pass on. I'd grudgingly ignore it, but he has zero leash the rest of the game if he does something like that (which I guess is what you meant by your last part of the sentence).

[Adam]

Originally Posted by RedAndWhiteRef

I'm not sure, if a coach laughed in my face that would be hard to pass on. I'd grudgingly ignore it, but he has zero leash the rest of the game if he does something like that (which I guess is what you meant by your last part of the sentence).

Yep.