Who do you get.

[jTheUmp]

Given how the OP describe the situation, I'd probably have handled it exactly the way the OP did.

With that said, when I wrote up my incident report to the state (required when there's a player or coach ejection), I'd make a note that the coach was attempting to calm down the situation when the (unavoidable) 3rd indirect T was issued.

Maybe it helps his case when the state decides if coach needs to be suspended for the next game... maybe not (after all, there were several opportunities to avoid the first direct T and first indirect T).