just a little note- travel and coaches

[BigT]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Yes, I'm guilty of it. I call a travel on the coach's team

This is what I do. Then the coach looks at me like WTF. I say "I didnt know you meant to call it on the other team...*sheepish look*"

For some reason he doesnt yell Travel any more that night...

[Adam]

Originally Posted by BigT

This is what I do. Then the coach looks at me like WTF. I say "I didnt know you meant to call it on the other team...*sheepish look*"

For some reason he doesnt yell Travel any more that night...

I get that a lot of officials do this, and that includes a lot of guys I respect a lot.

I personally don't like it, no matter how much I understand it.

[BryanV21]

Building a good rapport with coaches is an important aspect of officiating. Even if you don't like a particular coach, being sarcastic like that is counter-productive. If a coach is just too much for you, then don't take another game with him.

Why not just say "coach, I'm sorry, but I'm not seeing what you're seeing. However, I promise you that I'm looking out for it"?

If you already have a good rapport with a coach, then by all means make a joke. It could very well lighten things up and make the rest of the game easier on you both. But be careful about doing that, as it can come off as you being an a-hole, which can only make things worse.

[JRutledge]

I think people have to officiate within their personality. Some can use humor and others cannot. Some can be a hardass, others cannot be that way. Some can say things calmly and everything is alright, others cannot express themselves that way. It really is based on your personality and your delivery and sarcasm does work for many officials. And sometimes that delivery is based on the coach you are dealing with and your experience with that coach. And I also disagree that we have to build rapport with coaches. My job is to officiate the game, not be chummy with the coach or get them to like me. They are going to respect me and I will respect them until they prove otherwise, but I will not try to get them to like everything being said. And if I can say something that gets them back to coaching, that is a win for me however that is accomplished. I do not want to deal with a coach all game long debating minor violations and fouls. That does not help them and it certainly is not helping me. And I do not care if a coach gets upset for that reason. That is their problem. Good coaches in my experience worry about their teams, not me or my partners.

Peace

[BryanV21]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

I think people have to officiate within their personality. Some can use humor and others cannot. Some can be a hardass, others cannot be that way. Some can say things calmly and everything is alright, others cannot express themselves that way. It really is based on your personality and your delivery and sarcasm does work for many officials. And sometimes that delivery is based on the coach you are dealing with and your experience with that coach. And I also disagree that we have to build rapport with coaches. My job is to officiate the game, not be chummy with the coach or get them to like me. They are going to respect me and I will respect them until they prove otherwise, but I will not try to get them to like everything being said. And if I can say something that gets them back to coaching, that is a win for me however that is accomplished. I do not want to deal with a coach all game long debating minor violations and fouls. That does not help them and it certainly is not helping me. And I do not care if a coach gets upset for that reason. That is their problem. Good coaches in my experience worry about their teams, not me or my partners.

Peace

Building a rapport with the coach doesn't mean to get chummy with them. Building a rapport means having mutual respect and an understanding with one another. That could mean being able to be sarcastic or a hard-ass without that coach taking it the wrong way, and making the rest of the game a nightmare.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by BryanV21

Building a rapport with the coach doesn't mean to get chummy with them. Building a rapport means having mutual respect and an understanding with one another. That could mean being able to be sarcastic or a hard-ass without that coach taking it the wrong way, and making the rest of the game a nightmare.

A coach is not going to be around long enough for the game to be a nightmare. Maybe you are worried about what they think, I do not. I only care about answering reasonable question and if a coach gets in the habit of asking silly questions or debating with the answer, they will quickly get ignored by me. And this works very well for me. I use humor a lot and sarcasm a lot. It does not hurt me, but that is my personality. It comes natural because of my humor. And the coaches I have been around a lot realize this and move on. And those officials that always feel like they have to calm down a coach or make them whole get on my damn nerves. And I give coaches a lot of of rope even when they are saying things like "It is 10 to 1" or "We are not going to get any calls from you." I use whatever I need to let it be known what I will tolerate. If I am unsuccessful, I have tools to penalize their actions. But I am sorry, not my goal to build a rapport. My job is to be professional and answer questions when appropriately asked. But it is not my job to debate with them, which often happens or to BS them.

Peace

[BryanV21]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

A coach is not going to be around long enough for the game to be a nightmare. Maybe you are worried about what they think, I do not. I only care about answering reasonable question and if a coach gets in the habit of asking silly questions or debating with the answer, they will quickly get ignored by me. And this works very well for me. I use humor a lot and sarcasm a lot. It does not hurt me, but that is my personality. It comes natural because of my humor. And the coaches I have been around a lot realize this and move on. And those officials that always feel like they have to calm down a coach or make them whole get on my damn nerves. And I give coaches a lot of of rope even when they are saying things like "It is 10 to 1" or "We are not going to get any calls from you." I use whatever I need to let it be known what I will tolerate. If I am unsuccessful, I have tools to penalize their actions. But I am sorry, not my goal to build a rapport. My job is to be professional and answer questions when appropriately asked. But it is not my job to debate with them, which often happens or to BS them.

Peace

You're clearly having trouble understanding what it means to build a rapport with somebody. What's funny is that it sounds like you're doing just that, as you've allowed yourself to be sarcastic and funny while answering questions and being professional.

BTW, I don't care if a coach likes me. I care about working with the coaches in order to make sure the game goes smoothly.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by BryanV21

Building a good rapport with coaches is an important aspect of officiating. Even if you don't like a particular coach, being sarcastic like that is counter-productive. If a coach is just too much for you, then don't take another game with him.

Why not just say "coach, I'm sorry, but I'm not seeing what you're seeing. However, I promise you that I'm looking out for it"?

If you already have a good rapport with a coach, then by all means make a joke. It could very well lighten things up and make the rest of the game easier on you both. But be careful about doing that, as it can come off as you being an a-hole, which can only make things worse.

If he's trying to get a call every trip down the court, he's not getting my most accomodating response. He's getting, "Coach, if you have a question, I'll be happy to answer, but I can't have the running commentary."

If he's been relatively well behaved and asks for a call, I may engage the conversation if I have time.

Me: "Coach, what did you see?"
Coach: "coach speak"
Me: either 1) "I saw it differently", 2) "he wasn't holding the ball" (or something like that), 3) "I must have missed it." (always possible)