What qualifies as good official?

[cropduster]

Just started officiating again after 21 years. It has been like starting all over. The rules have changed some but a lot was just lost due to time. So far I've done 17 MS games, some of which felt good after and others I couldn't wait to get out of the gym. The senior officials I've called with tell me I'm doing good and that all is needed is more experience. At this point I'm satisfied with where I'm at for a newbie.

My question to the seasoned citizens is: what makes a "good" official? Both of our kids play basketball at a small "B" school in north La. and when I'm not calling we try to see all of their games. We see officials from two different associations on a regular basis and it's easy to see which refs are the most proficient; but, what (in a list form) makes the best official? Is it the one who calls everything that happens in a game, or the one that tends to let em play, or...?