But you said...

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I always ask myself after I give a T to someone....What could I have done differently? Did my actions or inactions contribute to the situation? Did I say something that could have been taken wrong? I am not saying that I am second guessing my call of a T....But just evaluating myself on how I could change me people skills in the future......Sometimes the answer to the above questions are that you could not have done anything differently and no matter what was done in the game a T was given. But maintaining control or the feeling that you were not in control is your own feeling.....Did the T make the game better.....probably yes!

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