Most Hurtful Thing You've Ever Heard From a Coach

[deecee]

Originally Posted by fiasco

Yes, I know I'm dredging up an old thread, but it's late and I'm sitting in my wife's hospital room after her surgery, what gives...

I wouldn't say there's anything a coach has ever said that has been hurtful, but there is one thing I've heard several times that has stuck in my craw for several days. Working JV games and having a coach or fan say to me "That's why you're not a varsity ref." for some reason that one always just stings.

Luckily, tomorrow night I officially get to call myself a varsity ref and, in a way, get to tell all those coaches and fans to stick it.

I turn and Whack him after that. And if you want to be unprofessional you can always say, "The same goes for you coaching JV I guess"

[bainsey]

Originally Posted by deecee

I turn and Whack him after that.

+1

People are going to continue to say such things if they're not accountable. Besides, they don't know what other games you work. It only stings if you allow it to do so.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by bainsey

+1

People are going to continue to say such things if they're not accountable. Besides, they don't know what other games you work. It only stings if you allow it to do so.

I agree. But when you are working varsity games they do sometimes know what you work as when teams scout each other they recognize or don't recognize officials. Also when you work certain tournaments they see who is working the game before or after and know who has some experience at that level. That is probably why in an earlier post the coach made that claim. Also they can probably find out more about us than we know. Remember coaching are some of the most paranoid professions on the planet. They think of all kinds of situations and scenarios and likely come up in our games and affects what they say to us on the court.

Peace

[BLS]

Last year was my first officiating VBoys games. Worked at a school where I had worked numerous JV games in previous years. Home coach had a couple calls that went against him and yells "That's why you're JV ref!" after I had a closely guarded call he didn't like. Calmly whacked and moved on. The interesting thing was I got an email from that coach about three months later (long after basketball season was over) apologizing for his conduct. At first, I wasn't even sure what he was talking about.

[deecee]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

I agree. But when you are working varsity games they do sometimes know what you work as when teams scout each other they recognize or don't recognize officials. Also when you work certain tournaments they see who is working the game before or after and know who has some experience at that level. That is probably why in an earlier post the coach made that claim. Also they can probably find out more about us than we know. Remember coaching are some of the most paranoid professions on the planet. They think of all kinds of situations and scenarios and likely come up in our games and affects what they say to us on the court.

Peace

I don't care if it's my first varsity game. If a coach throws that line out I'm t'ing him up and setting the tone. treat me with respect and ill talk to coaches and players as often as I am capable of. Try walking over me and you will find the rug pulled very fast.

There is no justification or excuses for the coaches actions during a game. Each game, I treat, as a contest in a vacuum. I don't hold previous positive or negative actions by a coach for or against them.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by deecee

I don't care if it's my first varsity game. If a coach throws that line out I'm t'ing him up and setting the tone. treat me with respect and ill talk to coaches and players as often as I am capable of. Try walking over me and you will find the rug pulled very fast.

There is no justification or excuses for the coaches actions during a game. Each game, I treat, as a contest in a vacuum. I don't hold previous positive or negative actions by a coach for or against them.

I did not say it was OK. I think it is not surprising a coach would not only think of what level the official is they are dealing with, but even say something sometime. How you handle it is up to you. But I do know that if every time someone says something to you and you T them, you will have a lot of Ts for a lot of comments. We all have our own line.

Peace

[Adam]

Worst thing I ever heard from a coach came after a sophomore game. At half time, that same coach had perhaps said the nicest thing I've heard from a coach.

It was a quick lesson on how much weight coach comments should be given.