When is enough ... enough

JRutledge · #1 (**permalink**) Mon Dec 14, 2009, 10:02am

This is a very personal thing. I had a coach on Saturday that complained about a double whistle that I had, where the ball came my area and I made the call in the lane. The coach was out of the box and I reported the foul. Immediately after the foul call, I went up to him and said; "If you are going to say anything to me about a call, it better be in this box" as I walked him back to the box. He later then said to me, "The other coach is out of the box, why don't you say anything to him?" I said back to him, "He is coaching and has not said a word to me.....when he stops coaching, I will address him too." I did not hear another word from this coach about anything. And this was so early in the game, I honestly thought hard about popping him. Now if he had not adhered to me comments, he would have got a T early. I was honestly tired of him already, but felt I could handle it another way. This comes with time and experience to know what to do and what to say and what is too far for you. I could have stuck him and next time he might not get much of a pass, but considering everything, I handled it the way I felt I needed to. I did this by having enough of his crap. I just did not need to do anything.

Peace

GoodwillRef · #2 (**permalink**) Mon Dec 14, 2009, 12:37pm

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Originally Posted by JRutledge

This is a very personal thing. I had a coach on Saturday that complained about a double whistle that I had, where the ball came my area and I made the call in the lane. The coach was out of the box and I reported the foul. Immediately after the foul call, I went up to him and said; "If you are going to say anything to me about a call, it better be in this box" as I walked him back to the box. He later then said to me, "The other coach is out of the box, why don't you say anything to him?" I said back to him, "He is coaching and has not said a word to me.....when he stops coaching, I will address him too." I did not hear another word from this coach about anything. And this was so early in the game, I honestly thought hard about popping him. Now if he had not adhered to me comments, he would have got a T early. I was honestly tired of him already, but felt I could handle it another way. This comes with time and experience to know what to do and what to say and what is too far for you. I could have stuck him and next time he might not get much of a pass, but considering everything, I handled it the way I felt I needed to. I did this by having enough of his crap. I just did not need to do anything.

Peace

If a coach is out of his box, even if he is just coaching, we still need to make sure he stays in his box. I am not saying you need to warn or whack them just kindly remind them to stay within the lines.

JRutledge · #3 (**permalink**) Mon Dec 14, 2009, 01:25pm

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Originally Posted by GoodwillRef

If a coach is out of his box, even if he is just coaching, we still need to make sure he stays in his box. I am not saying you need to warn or whack them just kindly remind them to stay within the lines.

You really missed the point.

Peace

grunewar · #4 (**permalink**) Mon Dec 14, 2009, 01:29pm

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Originally Posted by Mark Padgett

There's an old saying that the purpose of a technical is to stop bad behavior, and if you can stop the bad behavior without issuing the T, you're just that much ahead.

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Originally Posted by TheOracle

That is the best advice I have ever seen on here.

And you got it from Mark? I'm impressed.....I think!

fullor30 · #5 (**permalink**) Mon Dec 14, 2009, 02:04pm

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Originally Posted by GoodwillRef

If a coach is out of his box, even if he is just coaching, we still need to make sure he stays in his box. I am not saying you need to warn or whack them just kindly remind them to stay within the lines.

I'm sure Jeff does..........

Juulie Downs · #6 (**permalink**) Tue Dec 15, 2009, 10:55am

A lot of times, especially at the lower levels, once you whack the coach, they start coaching better and the team starts to do better. For this reason, I started viewing the T as a favor to a struggling team. If the coach is yipping more than coaching, do him a favor. THen if he keeps yipping and you have to toss him, you're doing EVERYONE a favor -- his kids, the fans, the other team and your partner. Usually, the assistant is a LOT more self--controlled, if only for self-preservation. Then the game can move forward in an orderly way. Don't see it as a last resort, but as a tool that can make the game better.