How do you keep your head in the game...

[Junker]

I agree with what everyone else has said. Some nights it is difficult to leave your day in the car when you arrive at a game. I try to break the game into small chunks of time and tell myself to focus until the next time out, quarter break, etc. Then I step back, take a deep breath and relax during that dead ball period. After that it is back to focus.

[Coltdoggs]

Back in December of 2000, I was in my first year...It was 2:00 on a Saturday and I was about to toss the ball for tip off when my wife walked in the gym....It was odd that she showed up because she never comes to the games I officiate...She was there to tell me that my dad had suffered a massive heart attack....Obviously I had to leave the gym and the guy I was working with ended up working the game by himself (kids rec league, so not a huge deal). My dad was pronounced dead at 2:34..he was 64 years old....Although we lived 10 minutes from each other...he was 2 hours away near Cincy at a Riverboat and passed away at a hospital down there and I didn't get to see him that day...I had seen him the day before but just "in passing" as I stopped at his house to pick something up and was gone in a flash without much conversation....

Over the course of the next week getting all his funeral arrangements and the funeral itself and thinking I wasted the last chance I had to see him.... I contemplated if I could actually go back on a court to officiate because I was there when I got the news...I ended up taking the next weekend off from doing games....2 weeks later I took the court again with a heavy heart but I knew I had "my partner" with me in spirit and that my dad would have wanted me to keep pressing on. That in itself kept my head where it needed to be.

Although my dad has never seen me officiate a game in person in 7+ seasons, he takes the court with me everytime I step out there. I agree with others that you can "escape" by taking the court...I've really learned how to tune everything outside the court out and focus on the 10 kids on the court and the 2 coaches I have that day...

[Nevadaref]

My opinion is that if an individual cannot focus mentally on the basketball game at an appropriate level to provide the service of officiating, then that person needs to either turn back the assignment or not accept in the first place.

That may sound cold, but the kids deserve a quality performance. It's not acceptable to say, my mind wasn't really in it today because of ...X, Y, or Z.

[Bearfanmike20]

Originally Posted by Nevadaref

My opinion is that if an individual cannot focus mentally on the basketball game at an appropriate level to provide the service of officiating, then that person needs to either turn back the assignment or not accept in the first place.

That may sound cold, but the kids deserve a quality performance. It's not acceptable to say, my mind wasn't really in it today because of ...X, Y, or Z.

Thats why I'm looking for advice.... I'm going through some stuff, I've done about 4 games now.. and its not that I'm thinking of the other stuff during the game, but... I just feel... slower... My head is in the game, but yet I dont feel on top of my game??...

Does that make sense??....

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Bearfanmike20

Thats why I'm looking for advice.... I'm going through some stuff, I've done about 4 games now.. and its not that I'm thinking of the other stuff during the game, but... I just feel... slower... My head is in the game, but yet I dont feel on top of my game??...

Does that make sense??....

I found that officiating provides me an escape. By focussing on the game and only the game, all my outside concerns go away for a short time. Use it that way.

If your game isn't the first at that venue, show up early and watch the previous game. It'll help you get into "basketball mode." If yours is the first, or if you aren't able to go early due to other issues, find some time the day before to go to a game and watch, focussing only on the game you are watching. It'll help train your mind to focus on the game while you're at the gym.

[Coltdoggs]

Originally Posted by Bearfanmike20

Thats why I'm looking for advice.... I'm going through some stuff, I've done about 4 games now.. and its not that I'm thinking of the other stuff during the game, but... I just feel... slower... My head is in the game, but yet I dont feel on top of my game??...

Does that make sense??....

Mike...I know what you are saying and I would offer this...

Stop going out drinking the night before you have games!

Ok, seriously...in this time you are struggling...Wake up on the day of your game and begin to prepping for you game the minute you start your day....Think about the game while in the shower...watch some hoops highlights, but not like you were checking out the score...Log in here during the day...start thinking about the game earlier in the day and that will help get you where you need to be mentally by game time...

If that doesn't help, then by all means, take a couple weeks off to get your head right...

[fullor30]

Originally Posted by Nevadaref

My opinion is that if an individual cannot focus mentally on the basketball game at an appropriate level to provide the service of officiating, then that person needs to either turn back the assignment or not accept in the first place.

That may sound cold, but the kids deserve a quality performance. It's not acceptable to say, my mind wasn't really in it today because of ...X, Y, or Z.

This site, along with rulings and situation examples also examines the thought process and emotions of officials and acts as a personal catharsis as to one's inner thoughts as they officiate. It's an open forum and I respect posters who share these thoughts not only on rules, but the human element of officiating. Despite your expertise in rules knowledge, you seem void of the latter.

[Mark Padgett]

How do I keep my head in the game? For the answer, I refer you to my pharmacist.

[Back In The Saddle]

I miss the first, obvious call of the game. Coach rips me a new one. A flood of endorphines and adrenaline occurs. My focus improves.

[rainmaker]

I've been through a lot of different "personal situations" over the course of my reffing, and I've found that it varies from sitch to sitch. Sometimes, reffing is a good escape, and it's a relief to get away from the problems for a while. That's usually only true when the problem is at some kind of balance or statis. In the midst of a cyclone, I have ended up turning back games, or wishing I had.

Once I'm into a game, and having trouble feeling on top of things for whatever reason, here are a few tricks I've used that help.

As the game is going on, talk to yourself out loud about what you see. Do it quietly, with the whistle in your mouth, but do it out loud. It really helps focus your brain (it's also a great way to learn to watch off ball!). "23 guarding, legal so far, good trap, now, 32 gathers the ball, oops, pivot slid --TWEET! -- ... " and so on.

If you have the right partner, you can use them to help you stay in the game, by actively talking about certain players and plays, not to "find" fouls, but just to describe and comprehend details. Needing to talk to the partner about them helps you concentrate on what's happening.

During half- time, you might quickly jot down on paper your worst worries and frettings. Then when you're into the second half, you can say to yourself, "It's in the locker room, I can read that later. Don't need to think about it now."

Usually, for me, I just get irritable, and have trouble controlling my temper. One year, when my 6 year old had been in and out of the hospital 7 times in six weeks for unexplained, uncontrollable vomiting and migraine headaches, I had a little kids game where I whacked and tossed a coach over some little comment that was really no big deal. The next week I apologized, as it had been my fault completely. If you need temper control in your personal situations, work on that as a separate issue. Self-awareness is 90% of that battle.

Lastly, just be really aware of how you're feeling BEFORE THE GAME. Be sure to turn back a game where you KNOW you're going to have problems with attitude, or with keeping your head into the game. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

[Mark Padgett]

Guys, I've worked games with Juulie and I've never known her head not to be in the game. I'd work with her any time, and you'd all be lucky to do the same.

[tomegun]

Originally Posted by fullor30

This site, along with rulings and situation examples also examines the thought process and emotions of officials and acts as a personal catharsis as to one's inner thoughts as they officiate. It's an open forum and I respect posters who share these thoughts not only on rules, but the human element of officiating. Despite your expertise in rules knowledge, you seem void of the latter.

I don't know Fullor, other posters have mentioned the same thing with more fluff and nobody has said a word. I kind of said the same thing myself.

Let me say this for the record. Nevada knows the rules very well, but unless things have changed, he does not go on the court and only concern himself with the book down to the letter. I'm not going to say he's perfect, because none of us are, but he can work the game and isn't as rigid as some may think. I'm not saying this because I've seen him make 5,000 posts on an Internet site, I'm saying this because I know him.

[Nevadaref]

Originally Posted by fullor30

This site, along with rulings and situation examples also examines the thought process and emotions of officials and acts as a personal catharsis as to one's inner thoughts as they officiate. It's an open forum and I respect posters who share these thoughts not only on rules, but the human element of officiating. Despite your expertise in rules knowledge, you seem void of the latter.

I acknowledged that my sentiment might seem cold, if we are only looking at the situation from the viewpoint of the "hurting" official. However, my main point was that officiating is a service that we provide to hardworking kids and their coaches. They put a tremendous amount of hours in and we have to respect that. I truly believe that they deserve a quality performance, and if an individual is incapable of giving that for whatever reason then he/she ought to step aside and allow someone else to fill in. So my thought is actually about putting others first. I'm sorry that you didn't take it that way.

[JRutledge]

The question is fair and all of us are not going to be able to give up all games just because you have a death, a divorce or some personal sickness in our families. And who cares how much time someone puts into the game, so do we. That does not mean that someone cannot adequately work a game because they have issues going on off the court. Officiating is not a life or death service. Whether we want to accept it or not, after all this is just a game, even if we want to treat is more than that. And to know how to deal with those issues is not only a normal part of life for everyone. If people are not taking off from their regular jobs, I do not see why they could not officiate a “game.”

[Adam]

Rut, I think Nevada would agree with you. He doesn't seem to be saying that a person should always turn back the games if they have these things going on. He seems to be saying that it should be considered, for an official who can't concentrate on the game due to outside issues.

Everybody deals with life's stresses differently, and some of those stresses are harder than others to deal with and not adjust your life temporarily. I can imagine a death in the family causing me to need to turn back games, depending on how close I was to the person who died. I can imagine a divorce going either way as well, although I think a person would be more likely to be helped by continuing with an officiating schedule through this than through a family death.