Frustrated with game administration

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by ronny mulkey

I disagree with this philosophy of calling fewer lower level games UNLESS your quantity of higher level games prevent it. The experience gained from dealing with these "negative" situations will make you a much better official in the future. And, after you have gained all that experience, then you need to share this experience with the less experienced others as they come through. It's kinda like the people here giving you good advice on how to handle this situation - at one time they didn't know how, either.

Good points. Learning how to deal with those types of situations will help any official's development.

Jmo, but I think that the major thing that any official needs to learn is to not take personally any of the crap that comes your way. It comes with the job. Once you put on a striped shirt and stick a whistle in your mouth, you're a target, no matter how good you are. Except for your partners, the people that you deal with aren't neutral and unbiased, and you can't really expect them to act that way.

[Coltdoggs]

The I/R Theory from the business world is a great applicator for a sports
official.

I am not what i R...

I=Your Identity (the real you, the person)
R= Your Role (hoops official, sales rep, banker, whatever you do)

No matter how bad you are at your R on a given occassion, it does not define your I. You can have a bad day as a (ref, rep, banker)...you can make mistakes but it does not change the person you really are (I).

In other words, I might be terrible as an official (at least on that call, Coach ) but I'm still the same, good ol' Coltdoggs who is a father, friend and all around pretty good guy....

I've began sharing this with my own kids who like to beat themselves up over a bombed test and the girls I'm coaching who get upset about missed shots in the game.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by ILRef80

Unfortunately, this school doesn't have an assignor. Games are just scheduled through the AD.

Was this an IESA game? If it was you can file a report similar to what the IHSA has, but I do not think it is online like the Special Report. You might have to fax the information to the IESA Office. Even without the assignor giving you a game, you can say something to the Athletic Director.

If this was not an IESA game (or not associated with any specific association), then I would say something to the AD and not go back to that school. That is always an option you have.

Peace

[ILRef80]

Originally Posted by BktBallRef

And if the same caoch had told you that you worked a terrible game, would you have believed him?

If you're going to thump your chest when a coach does you uou did a good job, then you have to listen to him when he says you sucked.

IOW, take it all with a grain of salt. Don't put much stock into anything a coach tells you.

Point taken.

[Adam]

Something to consider:
Talk to the AD, and be fully ready to not work the games you have there in the future if he/she doesn't acquiesce.

At the very least (you do have a commitment, after all), you could inform the AD you will work the already agreed-upon games but not any games in the future. This is assuming your discussion with the AD doesn't go well if and when you have it.