The I/R Theory from the business world is a great applicator for a sports
official.
I am not what i R...
I=Your Identity (the real you, the person)
R= Your Role (hoops official, sales rep, banker, whatever you do)
No matter how bad you are at your R on a given occassion, it does not define your I. You can have a bad day as a (ref, rep, banker)...you can make mistakes but it does not change the person you really are (I).
In other words, I might be terrible as an official (at least on that call, Coach
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) but I'm still the same, good ol' Coltdoggs who is a father, friend and all around pretty good guy....
I've began sharing this with my own kids who like to beat themselves up over a bombed test and the girls I'm coaching who get upset about missed shots in the game.