Motivation to do the right thing

[RSmith]

Good timing on sharing the email. I am a 1st year ref and did a game last night... I'm sure I missed a call or two... but home coach barked at almost every whistle. This in turn let the crowd into getting nasty. In the 4th quarter, I went to the table to report a foul... he came clear to the table - got in my face - and said "I'm glad to see you can blow that whistle - I though you swallowed it along with a few other comments about calls. As I Td him up - he yelled out that he also knew that I would end up giving him a technical. He gave me no choice - but last night and today I was beginning to wonder... until I read your piece.

[Adam]

Where was your partner? He shoulda given him his 2nd one for the last comment. Short that, I'd have given him his ticket to the locker room myself.

[Back In The Saddle]

Originally Posted by RSmith

Good timing on sharing the email. I am a 1st year ref and did a game last night... I'm sure I missed a call or two... but home coach barked at almost every whistle. This in turn let the crowd into getting nasty. In the 4th quarter, I went to the table to report a foul... he came clear to the table - got in my face - and said "I'm glad to see you can blow that whistle - I though you swallowed it along with a few other comments about calls. As I Td him up - he yelled out that he also knew that I would end up giving him a technical. He gave me no choice - but last night and today I was beginning to wonder... until I read your piece.

Coaches will give you exactly as much crap as you allow them to. The coach has one role to play during the game, and that his to coach his team. If this coach was truly barking on every whistle, it needed to be addressed within the first couple of minutes of the game. And if you're concerned that no single act by that coach "crossed the line" then have a look at the PPP philosophy some posters have shared this year. Or or dearly departed Chuck Elias' ABS philosophy.

But defintely don't wait until the 4th quarter to take care of business.

[Bearfanmike20]

Originally Posted by RSmith

Good timing on sharing the email. I am a 1st year ref and did a game last night... I'm sure I missed a call or two... but home coach barked at almost every whistle. This in turn let the crowd into getting nasty. In the 4th quarter, I went to the table to report a foul... he came clear to the table - got in my face - and said "I'm glad to see you can blow that whistle - I though you swallowed it along with a few other comments about calls. As I Td him up - he yelled out that he also knew that I would end up giving him a technical. He gave me no choice - but last night and today I was beginning to wonder... until I read your piece.

I have yet to adminster a T. But I have yet to be questioned by a coach either.

Ive had little comments.. like..

"wheres the count"

or

"he got hacked"

I just ignor it.. never has a coach ever confronted me.... yet LOL

[inigo montoya]

I absolutely hate it when a coach actually DOES know the rules for a 3-second violation BUT has a quick count, and yells "3 seconds!" when I'm at about 2 and a half. Now if I blow the whistle, I look like I'm just responding to or favoring the coach.

[Back In The Saddle]

Originally Posted by inigo montoya

I absolutely hate it when a coach actually DOES know the rules for a 3-second violation BUT has a quick count, and yells "3 seconds!" when I'm at about 2 and a half. Now if I blow the whistle, I look like I'm just responding to or favoring the coach.

I'm sorry, Coach. I was at 2 1/2, but your hollering distracted me and so I had to start over.

[Bearfanmike20]

Originally Posted by Back In The Saddle

I'm sorry, Coach. I was at 2 1/2, but your hollering distracted me and so I had to start over.

Would you actually say somthing like this.. seriously??

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Bearfanmike20

Would you actually say somthing like this.. seriously??

No, but it's extremely tempting.

[Back In The Saddle]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

No, but it's extremely tempting.

Exactly.

[TheOracle]

Originally Posted by Bearfanmike20

Would you actually say somthing like this.. seriously??

If BITS had credibility established with the coach, he could say that and the coach would laugh and leave him alone. If you are certain that humor will be accepted the right way, it's a great tool. Shows that you are human to coaches and players.

[bob jenkins]

Originally Posted by Bearfanmike20

Would you actually say somthing like this.. seriously??

I've said, "I was counting and it was close. If you yell it out, it makes it look like you called it for me. I'll get it when it's there."

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by Bearfanmike20

But I have yet to be questioned by a coach either.

Ive had little comments.. like..

"wheres the count"

or

"he got hacked"

Gee, I hate to have to be the one to break it to you....but....you are being questioned.

[tomegun]

The game I had went OK. I'm a perfectionist so no game is good enough for me. The home coach began to beg for stuff when his boys started to get beat in the fourth quarter. The game was back and forth until then. He has one player that he can't control - he took him out of the game and tried to pat him on the back/butt as he walked by, the player was pissed and avoided the coach. I gave the same player a T the last time I had them.
I hate it when the game is managed well, both teams are playing through some things and then the coach/team on the losing end begin to direct blame at the end of the game. What's more alarming is when your partners -the assigner and former assigner - are oblivious to it.
Finally, the kicker is the fact that there is a boys round robin tournament today at another high school. Yep, you guessed it, I have the same team tonight. I said something to the assigner about it after our game. I don't necessarily agree with having the same team two days in a row when they lost last night. Don't get me wrong, they will get the best of what I have to give, but I don't really know if they would want to see me so soon.