Conflict of Interest...

[NURef]

Looking for some guidance.

My daughter has been playing summer high school bball in the same league I've been officiating. I have officiated a couple of her games only after checking with both coaches and getting their okay. I felt like its summer so there shouldn't be too much of a conflict of interest. Of course that's absurd to say since it is a conflict of interest regardless if both head coaches know about it or not...still I went ahead and officiated the games (Funny story about that in a second).

I am officiating a NCAA sanctioned tournament soon and there might be an outside chance that I could end up being assigned to one of my Daughter's games. Though it's not an official high school season game and my assigner already said it's okay I don't feel it's a smart or the right thing to do. I've informed the assigner that he's got to allow me to switch gyms or just scratch me all together...he hasn't responded yet.

How do you guys and gals see it...am I making too big a deal out of it? Have any of you officiated your child's off-season games or games like this?

Back to my daughter's summer league game I officiated. She had committed her 4th foul and I called it (already calling 1 on her). She turned around and said, "Come on Dad! Give me a break!"...I about swallowed my whistle. The head coaches must not have told their players about our little agreement. Every player's jaw dropped...a player on the other team asked her "Did you just call that official Dad?". They all broke-up laughing. If I wasn't laughing myself I would have given her the big T. Unprofessional yes...but priceless.

[Dan_ref]

Tell the assignor you won't work your daughter's games period.

NCAA sanctioned events are a big deal for the players. If you're smart you'll get to watch her impress the coaches from the sidelines.

btw...did you know Michael Moore is almost as bad a liar as GW Bush? It's true, ask google!

[NURef]

Originally Posted by Dan_ref

Tell the assignor you won't work your daughter's games period.

NCAA sanctioned events are a big deal for the players. If you're smart you'll get to watch her impress the coaches from the sidelines.

btw...did you know Michael Moore is almost as bad a liar as GW Bush? It's true, ask google!

Thanks...will do!

[Nevadaref]

I agree with Dan.

It's not that there will be unfairness in the game if you work it; it's that there will be the specter of impropriety.

Plus you don't want to be involved if an odd situation happens to arise.

For example, would you have allowed a random player to turn to you after a foul call and tell you "give me a break?" Not a situation that you want to put yourself in.

[Dan_ref]

Originally Posted by Nevadaref

I agree with Dan.

It's not that there will be unfairness in the game if you work it; it's that there will be the specter of impropriety.

Plus you don't want to be involved if an odd situation happens to arise.

For example, would you have allowed a random player to turn to you after a foul call and tell you "give me a break?" Not a situation that you want to put yourself in.

Actually we don't agree.

It's not about his being able to call a fair game.

It's about his being able to enjoy his daughter impressing the coaches.

[Nevadaref]

I don't think it's about him being able to call a fair game either. I think it is about him not putting himself in an awkward situation and being subject to what other people might think.

I have no doubt that he could call a fair game.

And this is the statement with which I agree:

Originally Posted by Dan_ref

Tell the assignor you won't work your daughter's games period.

I guess it doesn't really matter why we both believe that he should do this.

[refnrev]

Don't work you daughter's game. I've had to work some of my son's HS soccer games when there was a last minute injury or no other official available. Trust me, YOU CANNOT WIN AND NEITHER CAN YOUR DAUGHTER OR HER TEAM!