How do you respond to coach who is right but an a** about it?

[biz]

Originally Posted by Time2Ref

I find nothing wrong with quietly saying to a coach, "I might have booted that call. I'll try to get it right next time". (but not too early, LOL. Some coaches may see this as a sign of weakness and work on you).

As a coach I have great respect for officials who are willing to admit they might have missed a call. I'm not perfect as a coach and I understand (as an official and a coach) that officials are not perfect.

As an official I have no problem with telling a coach I might have missed one if I think I missed it. I also don't have a problem admitting the same to the players on the floor. I think, in general, it makes the guys/gals in stripes seem more like people and not like the enemy.

[Adam]

A few years ago I was doing a boys freshman game; hotly contested for most of the game. Visiting team was pulling away in the fourth quarter, though, and had put their scrubs in with about 90 seconds remaining. Home team starts creeping back in it, and the visiting coach pulls the scrubs out after one of his kids gets fouled with about 45 seconds left. We’re shooting two, so the subs come in after the first free throw, and one of the scrubs doesn’t like being pulled so he kicks a chair and throws a water bottle onto the court.

Partner calls a flagrant T, coach apologizes and sends the kid to the locker room with an assistant coach. As we get ready to administer the second of the original two free throws, my partner says “two shots” to the shooter. As soon as he said it, he looked at me and we both knew he was wrong. Before he could correct himself, the home coach went ballistic. Partner walks over calmly and speaks through the coach’s antics, says, “Coach, we’ve got it handled. We’re getting it right, but we’re not going to have you show us up.” He walked the coach back to his bench while the coach stammered like a child, “but, but, but…”

Right now I’m not sure I wouldn’t T the coach.

[Rich]

I had this happen a few years ago -- a court with more lines on it than possible sports to play -- heel hits line, partner whistles a backcourt violation, realizes almost immediately it's an inadvertant whistle.

Coach said it happens a few times each season. Shrugged. Life went on.

I can't imagine a coach being a jerk about this. I wonder how a coach like this would act when he had a reason to be upset.

[tomegun]

[quote=biz].. I think, in general, it makes the guys/gals in stripes seem more like people and not like the enemy.[/quote]

Yesssssss! From the mouth of a coach.
How many times today during normal conversations disagreements and so forth has anyone used a stop sign today? Didn't think so. Coaches are people and officials are people.

[Dan_ref]

Originally Posted by tomegun

How many times today during normal conversations disagreements and so forth has anyone used a stop sign today? Didn't think so. Coaches are people and officials are people.

I put up the stop sign twice but I kept knocking my flat screen monitor over so I won't do it again.

btw Tom...you know what they say about coaches opininions, dontchya?

If you believe them when they say you're right....

[tomegun]

Originally Posted by Dan_ref

I put up the stop sign twice but I kept knocking my flat screen monitor over so I won't do it again.

btw Tom...you know what they say about coaches opininions, dontchya?

If you believe them when they say you're right....

Fortunately, or unfortunately, I'm aware of how flawed human beings can be so I don't believe much of anything. Think about what kind of trust issues I have since I work with most guys for the first time being new.