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I also would not have wasted my time entertaining this guy with a private meeting either. Please!! As long as my assigner understands the situation and did not assign me any of his games, IÂ’m good.
As far as his in game comments I would given him the T, if that didnÂ’t shut him up I would give him his walking papers. Sounds like he might have wanted to be tossed anyway.
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Wow...sounds like someone went to a lot of trouble to try to deal with a situation that can't really be dealt with...the coach is going to think/say whatever he/she wants to, and no amount of "meetings" will ever change that. Having said that, the one and only time I can remember a coach using that same line on me, I responded with something along the lines of "Coach, my personal distaste for you has nothing whatsoever to do with my calls. I would never punish your players because I dislike you." He sat down and shut-up...
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I thought the same thing. It still doesn't make any sense to me. The coach had ample time to tell me his side of the story there is still something missing.
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This is a FREAKIN JUNIOR HIGH GIRLÂ’S COACH FOR GODÂ’S SAKE. If the assignor did not fire you, or other assignors would not hire you, let it go. Who cares why he thinks you do not like him. That is his problem. If he wants to use your dislike for him as a crutch every game, then he is the one cheating the kids, not you or any other official. Peace
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2. $$$ We are paid travel based on the distance from the home of our association to the game location, regardless of actual distance traveled. Probably I am going to at least not be allowed to call close to home for a while. Now I will have to travel farther and be paid less. 3. Jr high is supposed to be the fun part. I have watched most of these kids play since their very first games, at ages 8 or 9. Watching them develop as players is something I consider priceless.
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A lot of times it seems the only ones trying to have fun and just playing are the players on the court. [Edited by SeanFitzRef on Nov 1st, 2005 at 12:42 PM]
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I can see some of your pain. It is often very difficult to officiate in small communities where you know most people. I live in a geographic area of AZ that has several small communities close together. Most people know each other, especially those involved in groups, like athletics. I had a similar situation but handled it a little differently. I was doing a Jr. High football game and it seemed to me that things went fine. The following day I got an anonymous phone call from someone telling me about a person from the visiting school. This person was the AD at the neighboring HS but had a son playing in the JH. Evidently, after the game he was talking on his cell phone and said some things that questioned my integrity, and basically said I was cheating. Remember, this person is an AD of a HS that is governed by the AIA (Arizona Interscholastic Association) and former official that is also governed by the AIA. This happened over a JH game that is not governed by the AIA. Anyway, after getting the information I immediately fired off an email asking this person to give me his side of the story (I always want to get the facts before working with rumors). In his response, he admitted to saying the things he had said the questioned my character. That is as far as I went with him. I forwarded the email to my AIA commisioner and let him handle the situation. I have been assigned to do games for that AD since and things have been professional. What is important to remember here is that when emotions get involved (friendships) it is better to step back and let an outside party handle the problems.
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This is not a small community issue or a big community issue. This happens in big communities as well. If you see the same coach over and over again, it does not matter if you live in that community. Or better yet, what if you grew up around this person and you happen to be working their games. This can happen in the big cities as well as the small towns. The problem is that at this level coaches lose perspective. Hardly anyone is going to remember or care what they did when they were in JH to begin with. You do not have 20 year JH class reunions; you have 20 year HS reunions. This is just another example of adults trying to turn youth sports into a proving ground for athletic achievement. Kids are not going to get college scholarships in JH and coaches are not going to get big time college jobs (let alone big time HS ones either) based on the JH achievement in these games.
This is just another example of why officiating at these levels is many times not fun. If coaches expect they are going to get the best officials working these games they are sadly mistaken. Peace
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When reffing these games, I am using them to tune my skills for the upcoming HS season, especially on being disciplined to my primary. Most of the ridiculous comments that are made come from people (coaches and parents) that don't know the game or the rules, and I treat their comments as such. Just Ignore Them!! Work the game, not the comments. Have fun. Let them deal with themselves and their own insecurities. If you know you have no personal vendetta against the coach or team, it shouldn't concern you.
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The issue for many of us is not whether the comments and behavior concerns us. The issue for me is it worth my time to be treated in a way that is not becoming of the event. If you like these games more power to you. I just think people around children would understand that these kids are watching. We always want to blame the pros for their behavior and the adults these kids actually know and interact with are saying things these kids can see for themselves. It is one thing to show the actions of someone these kids will never meet, it is quite another to see that behavior from a Dad or Mom that everyone on the team knows. Parents and teachers are real role models, not some guy on TV.
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JRut,
So true!! I worked a game last Saturday, an 8th Grade girls B game. A father of one of the girls, who acted as an assistant coach, managed to get himself tossed out of the game for his overzealous commentary on the officiating. His daughter dove on the back of a girl, while she is laying on the floor holding the ball. I call the foul, and he jumps up to complain as I am reporting, stating "She was going for the ball". I calmly give him a loud verbal warning that "I have heard enough, Assistant coach." I ask the head coach to keep him in line, as we have a good, close game going. Next trip down, the asst. coach keeps harping on the call, receives a tech from me (first one I have ever given in this league). My partner comes in during next dead ball and assesses a 2nd tech, because the guy just keeps complaining about the one call. He now has to leave the bench, and as he is leaving, their team and fans give him a standing ovation. For what??? He cost the team two points (out of 4 possible), and they lost by three. They have no clue about the game at all.
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