Deferring to parnter vs the rookie treatment

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Originally posted by Chess Ref
Working with a 6th yr officical last night. I am a 1st year ref. Before the Jv game he is doing the gladhanding -selling cars routine-investment opportunitys or whatever it was with both coaches. Comes over to me at 28 foot area and lets me know. Him and these coaches go a long way back and we will have no problems with them tonight. What he really meant to say was you are own tonight. And low and behold they didn't let up on me for a second. The best example . Press is on I am in back court covering the play in front of V bench V coach wants TO i blow whistle and and give TO . At same time something breaks out in the lane in front of H bench. Partner didn't see anything. ok i sure as heck didn't either. The whole TO the H coach is yelling at me for not calling a intential flag. foul. My partner who is now selling cars or investment oppurtunitys to The Varsity Refs who are now standing along the baseline. So I get to TEE up the coach -still no partner-his presentation must have ran over-he finally realized something was up when the horn blew and me and the shooter went to shoot free throws. i am glad we don't have to hustle the coaches/AD for work. i am not a very good politican.

Welcome to the world of officiating!! I've had similar experiences that you had. Like I stated in an earlier post I learned to stand up for myself to coaches but in a respectful way. If you work hard, hustle and exercise proper mechanics they can only argue with you so much. Most coaches that give refs heat are just frustrated for one reason or another--usually because their team is losing or he's just trying to get favorable calls for later. If he's a good coach it's usually not personal but if refs take it personal they shouldn't be officiating. JMHO