5th grade girls and emotions

[Hartsy]

I worked a fairly large tournament this weekend for 5th and 6th grade girls. One of the games was very close, but play was sloppy and rough. By the time the 4th period came around, many of the girls had been or were in tears. The coaches on one side were very rude, and the same teams fans/parents were very vocal and rude. It affected the kids, and I felt for them. One girl was rattled enough that she scored in the wrong basket, breaking a tie with under two minutes to go. Partner had also called a T on a player late in the game.

An interesting thing happened after the game. Another official came in to give one of us a break. I had just done two games, and my partner did not opt out, so I said I'd sit. When it was apparent there would be a switch, the crowd cheered, but it turned to jeers of "You took the wrong guy out!" when I sat down.

I was later told I did a good job with a bad situation. This coming from game management and some observers of the game from other teams.

In the end, I still felt disappointed for the girls on both sides. I think I did what I could, but still feel a bit guilty for how it played out.

I would like to hear from anyone who has dealt with this type of thing. I may be able to learn something that can help me handle it better next time.

Thanks,

JH