Wha' happens............

[rainmaker]

Originally posted by dblref
It started with her asking what the call was, and then why. When I explained, she said, "You mean you make a mistake, but we suffer for it?" I said "Yes, you suffer, and so do I." She looked kind of blank, and I said, "I have to work the rest of the game in shame and ignominy." She got this sort of deer-in-the-headlights look in her eye and said, "Wow!" I didn't hear another peep out of her. I have no idea what she thought "ignominy" meant.

You seemed to have handled the situation well, but just curious why you were explaining the call to the scorer. I can see explaining it to the coach(es), but not the scorer. I don't see where that is part of their duties.
[/B][/QUOTE] I always think if you can get along well with the scorer, it makes the game go better. Especially at the lower levels, which I do a lot of. She asked politely, I answered politely. It's been working well. Also, I think it's good for folks in general to understand that refs make mistakes, and that we don't just shrug it off, and that we try to do better next time; BUT, we are still human beings and deserve to be treated with respect. If I treat others that way, and myself, perhaps she'll pick up a little of it. There's just not enough forgiveness in the world.