Need advice from officials with experience

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Veteran Officials (or really any of you):
I need your advice on this. I'm a first year official who, as you can see, recently joined the site to try to learn some rules that might not be obvious from just reading the rule book. I'm not by any means an amazing official yet, but I do think that I have a proficient grasp of the rule book and that my on-court judgment and mechanics are just fine. I'm confident with the whistle and I'm always looking to learn. The topic I want to discuss is this: Several times, I have been paired with an official who is also a beginner, but is not very knowledgeable of the rules and is timid to call fouls, violations, etc. They are also usually terrible communicators and no one in the gym, including myself, knows what they have called or whose ball it will be (a huge headache especially in little kid games). I guess I have two questions.

1. Do you think that in elementary and middle school games it is okay to occasionally make a call out of your zone when you know you are working with this type of official?
-I have heard some say that it is okay especially in younger kid games when often times all ten players are gathered in one zone
-I have heard others say that you must always stay in your zone, in order to practice proper mechanics and prepare for varsity level games. Even if it means getting yelled at for several obvious missed calls.

2. What should I say(if anything at all) to this type of official to try to get them to be louder, use better mechanics, and communicate with me better? It is awkward because I am always several years younger than any partner, and don't want to seem condescending, but at the same time these things are necessary for the game to go more smoothly.

Thanks in advance