Wisdom needed

[j51969]

Originally Posted by DRJ1960

Gentlemen,
I am in need of wisdom.
BV 3 man... late in game ... ball goes OB to a fan. I motion for the ball and he throws it to my partner... I laugh and say "I guess he thinks you are better looking" to my partner.

A few moments later we are preparing for foul shots at the same end of the court. I am at half court opposite table, our 3rd man is reporting tableside and my partner is standing in "C". I motion (as we routinely do) for him to move down to administer the throws. He refuses to go and says for me to. I trot past and, while smiling, say "Don't want to leave the fan club?"

I am a grown man and realize it doesn't matter what I intended. My hope is that someone can explain why those two comments (as far as I am able to tell, we were fine up to that point... this was not our first game together) caused him to explode. I really thought he was going to get physical while screaming at me in the locker room post game.
Any wisdom would be appreciated. I will answer questions but have zero intention to insult, demean or otherwise put down my partner.

Like others I feel something is missing. However, we all have jobs during the day. Quite possible he had something transpire recently that had him all messed up. You may have just been the outlet for his frustration.

[Mark Padgett]

I had a coach yell at me once for something I said to him during a game and I still can't understand why he didn't realize it was just a joke. The ball went OOB and I went and picked it up. He asked, "Whose ball is it?" I looked down at the ball and replied, "Some kid named Wilson."

[Rich]

I have never been a part of a locker room confrontation, although some that know me would be surprised considering one of my games (that lives on and on and on and on). No matter how mad I've gotten, I've just gotten dressed and gotten out.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by Rich

I've just gotten dressed and gotten out.

If you continue to do it in that order, you'll never get any hot moms.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by Rich

I have never been a part of a locker room confrontation, although some that know me would be surprised considering one of my games (that lives on and on and on and on). No matter how mad I've gotten, I've just gotten dressed and gotten out.

Me neither, and I have a temper. I just don't think anything that happens while officiating would be worth me losing my temper.

[rockyroad]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Me neither, and I have a temper. I just don't think anything that happens while officiating would be worth me losing my temper.

So true. 27 years and only lost my temper once in locker room (believe me, it was warranted with what partner was saying to coach about our 3rd).

I think maybe the fan was being a complete ass about DRJ1960, and partner was trying to protect DRJ19060, so DRJ's comment about the fan club just pissed partner off. A quick "Hey, I was just kidding around. I didn't mean anything by it" should have been enough to calm the guy down. If that doesn't work, follow Rich's order of locker room procedure.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

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I think maybe the fan was being a complete ass about DRJ1960, ....

I'd be interested to know which school DRJ was at. His association refs a group a schools in my area. I immediately had one school pop in my head where a few of the male coaches from the school's other sports teams sit on the first row near where the C would be for free throws. They are a bunch of a-holes during the games.

[DRJ1960]

Thanks for the feedback....

There really was nothing extraordinary about the entire evening (that I am aware of!) until we arrived at the OP.

His theme (on the court and off) was that I had "disrespected him".

My multiple attempts to apologize went unnoticed.

I was hoping someone could tell me that there was some etiquette (whether Basketball or some other group) that I had violated.

He has experienced my humor before and never reacted this way.

Moving on....

[UNIgiantslayers]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

I'd be interested to know which school DRJ was at. His association refs a group a schools in my area. I immediately had one school pop in my head where a few of the male coaches from the school's other sports teams sit on the first row near where the C would be for free throws. They are a bunch of a-holes during the games.

Enough to ask game administration to take care of it? When I was in HS, we had a pretty rowdy student section. The AD would often come stand in the middle of us, and that usually took care of any disrespectful behavior.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Me neither, and I have a temper. I just don't think anything that happens while officiating would be worth me losing my temper.

Totally agree.

Peace

[packersowner]

Originally Posted by j51969

However, we all have jobs during the day. Quite possible he had something transpire recently that had him all messed up. You may have just been the outlet for his frustration.

Well said!