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I think there are two seperate issues here that combine to give you one big problem. The first issue is that you have a crew member that doesn't have the time to make an extra commitment (not wanting to make the extra meetings). The second issue is that you have a crew member that doesn't want to put in the requisite work to be a good official (not wanting to participate in pregame). When you add them both up, you have a crew member who doesn't share your vision of what the crew needs to be.

The first issue, if it is due to a lack of time in the off season, can be fixed by independent study. I don't know if I could make another meeting right now with my crew. I call semi pro, 7-on-7, teach part time and have a regular job with two kids and a wife. Another hour or two would be hard to squeeze out of my schedule without impacting my family life. That being said, I read the rules every night before bed and during my breaks at work. I am also spending time in the gym. I am committed to being a better official and being a benefit to my crew. I understand a lack of time.

The second issue is the one I have a problem with. Just like football players are made in the off season, so are officials. You can't just "go out and work" and expect to be polished. Some officials don't care about being polished and that is their right to do so. But if that doesn't fit in with your vision for your crew, you need to make a change. I am sure there are officials in your chapter that would love an opportunity to work Friday nights. Studying the rules and participating in pre-game are a part of the job.

Wish I had a better solution, but I would be looking for a replacement before it gets too late. Make sure that you communicate what is expected up front of any new members.