[theboys]

Obviously, we don't know each other Drake, so what I'm about to say may be totally offbase, but...

Since the assignor indicates he's had "several" complaints, maybe there is something in your demeanor that produces that reaction from the teams you ref. Your reply to the assignor, " Fine, if you don't want me to work, that's fine with me!!!", indicates you may need to step back, take a couple of deep breaths, and listen with a less passionate mindset. If that's your approach to coaches and players, it could be construed as arrogant.

I'm telling you, as much as you guys (and ladies) argue about it, "presence" is key to your success as a ref.

As a coach, I really appreciate a ref that's "approachable". Don't get me wrong. I don't expect a ref to take a bunch of crap, but I would like him/her to be marginally friendly prior to the game, and willing to explain a call in a cordial manner during it.

I suggest you have someone tape four or five games, then have an assignor review them with you. Or, better yet, have the assignor watch four or five games, and see if a pattern develops.

Good luck. Your concern shows you care.