Civil coaches do exit, and those are the only ones you should consider talking to. That means you won't be talking to the ones that tell you that you sucked. I consider myself very civil, and I know a lot of other civil coaches. As a coach, I always try to make sure that I thank the officials at the end of the game. I will thank them even if I thought one or both of them did a weak job. But, I will compliment them if I think they handled something exceptionally well, and apologize if I had started any howling. I will not offer advice on officiating, but I might make a commiserating comment to one of them if their partner was having a rough game. If an official ever approached me outside the context of a game just played, I would be happy, but a little surprised
. If asked for advice, the first thing I'd probably tell them would be to check out http://officialforum.com/
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