This is something that gets reveiwed every pregame I think I have had. Regardless of who gets a "T" at least one other official should huddle up with the ref who whislted the "T". This gives a chance for the one official to "cool down" if needed and for the other one to get the information as to why there was a T etc. Especially with coaches, this then lets the coach either continue to show their tail or calm down. If the coach continues to act up , then there is another official who can send them packing.
This doesn't always work, as the offenses in the first and secon T come fairly fast. For instance, as you report your T the player comes by and curses etc. but as a rule of thumb (
) this seems to have worked well for my games